Chrisis Over for now. (I'm going insane! Need help from my friends!)

[Argent Silvermage]

My sister just e-mailed me this. I recieved it at 2:30 PM today.

[qoute]I have some news I would like to share with you and a question I would like to ask.

Are you sitting? I am engaged to be married. In fact, I'm getting married very soon. Like Thanksgiving Day weekend. I would like you to give me away or kick me down the isle. I decided to get married quickly so my husband to be doesn't have a chance to change his mind.

I'll tell you everything ....

She has known this guy for 6 weeks WEEKS!

He needs a TRANSLATOR to speak to me.

He's not even a citizen! (greencards are us.)

His best friend is Planning the wedding!

HELP ME!

 

[Crothian]

Help you what? Are you thinking this is a mistake? If so talk to her. She's the one doing this, so whatever the problem is I urge you to talk to her. If she lives near you, go meet her and do it face to face. Otherwise the phone is a good way to go.

 

[Dimwhit]

If it makes you feel any better, my wife and I got married 5 months after our first date. It's not 6 weeks, but still... Six years later we're still happily married (though going insane with the kids ).

If she really wants it, you don't have many options. My suggestion is that you support her, walk her down the aisle, and hope it works out well in the end.

So, does she need a translator to take to her finance? I'm assuming she speaks his language.

Good luck!

 

[Henry]

I wish I could, but the best advice I can give you is this:

1) Tell her you love her.

2) Be sure she's SURE.

3) Love her no matter the decision.

That's about the limit I can give you that would mean anything worthwhile.

 

[Argent Silvermage]

If she really wants it, you don't have many options. My suggestion is that you support her, walk her down the aisle, and hope it works out well in the end.

So, does she need a translator to take to her finance? I'm assuming she speaks his language.

Good luck!

Yes. She cannot even talk more than a few words to him.

 

[Argent Silvermage]

If she really wants it, you don't have many options. My suggestion is that you support her, walk her down the aisle, and hope it works out well in the end.

So, does she need a translator to take to her finance? I'm assuming she speaks his language.

Good luck!

Yes. She cannot even talk more than a few words to him.

 

[Ashrem Bayle]

Stab him in the eye with a fork.


.... It's the only way to be sure.

 

[Mercule]

If she really wants it, you don't have many options. My suggestion is that you support her, walk her down the aisle, and hope it works out well in the end.

My advice is just the opposite. If you really are uncomfortable with it, you definitely need to talk to her. I had a friend get married to a gal I didn't think was right for him. Bad stuff ensued (won't elaborate).

On the other hand, meet the guy before jumping to any conclusions. This is definitely not a good time to go off half-cocked.

So, does she need a translator to take to her finance? I'm assuming she speaks his language.

My wife's cousin needed a translator when he got married to his wife. AFAIK, they're still doing just peachy several years later. This isn't critical, even though I can't imagine doing it myself.

 

[Dimwhit]

My advice is just the opposite. If you really are uncomfortable with it, you definitely need to talk to her. I had a friend get married to a gal I didn't think was right for him. Bad stuff ensued (won't elaborate).

Actually, I agree with you. I just buried that part of the advice in the "If she really wants it" bit. Definitely talk to her and express any concerns. But if she's determined, it's best to support her and be there for her is anything goes south. Too many good relationships get ruined when a friend/family member does the "if you do such and such then I'm outta here" bit.

 

[HeavyG]

I decided to get married quickly so my husband to be doesn't have a chance to change his mind.

Okay, is it just me or isn't this the worst reason EVAR ?