JesterPoet
First Post
My response comes from experience. Not as a teacher or parent, but as an adult who, as a kid, had a D&D group disbanded by an overprotective parent (and God knows, there's more of them now than there were in the 1980's... same number of psychos, just more overprotective parents) who didn't understand what was going on.
I'd kick the kids out of the group. But I wouldn't end it there. Don't just tell the kids, "You can't play any more, we have to put an age restriction on the group." Instead, tell them why they can't play anymore. Explain to them that there have been complaints from parents that the game is a bad influence, and that some parents don't trust that there isn't anything subversive going on. Don't accuse anyone specifically, and, most importantly, no matter what, refuse to tell them whose parents complained... don't even tell them that the person isn't in the group anymore. Make sure they leave wondering. They will. And they'll confront their parents.
That's exactly what happened to my group when I was a kid. We all went back and confronted our parents. Nobody could figure out who did it, but we were all mad as hell. None of us gave up gaming. We're all still gamers, and we just found another way to participate in the hobby. A lot of parents had their eyes opened by that. Even my mother, who, I found out years later, was the one who complained. She now totally supports not only this hobby, but everything I do, and has for years.
It's true, this won't help you outside of covering your butt. It'll still mean you lose your players. But you'll help those kids. I assure you. Kids aren't stupid, and they don't like being told they can't do something "just because." Especially when they know it's irrational. Plus, it gives you a little stab back at the community, and helps bring overprotective parents down a notch, which, arguably, many of them need.
Good luck.
Disclaimer: My mother is an awesome person. Always has been. Unfortunately I was born with OCS (only-child syndrome) so we suffered occasional incidents of overprotectiveness like the one mentioned above. Everyone makes mistakes. It was just nice to be able to point one out.
I'd kick the kids out of the group. But I wouldn't end it there. Don't just tell the kids, "You can't play any more, we have to put an age restriction on the group." Instead, tell them why they can't play anymore. Explain to them that there have been complaints from parents that the game is a bad influence, and that some parents don't trust that there isn't anything subversive going on. Don't accuse anyone specifically, and, most importantly, no matter what, refuse to tell them whose parents complained... don't even tell them that the person isn't in the group anymore. Make sure they leave wondering. They will. And they'll confront their parents.
That's exactly what happened to my group when I was a kid. We all went back and confronted our parents. Nobody could figure out who did it, but we were all mad as hell. None of us gave up gaming. We're all still gamers, and we just found another way to participate in the hobby. A lot of parents had their eyes opened by that. Even my mother, who, I found out years later, was the one who complained. She now totally supports not only this hobby, but everything I do, and has for years.
It's true, this won't help you outside of covering your butt. It'll still mean you lose your players. But you'll help those kids. I assure you. Kids aren't stupid, and they don't like being told they can't do something "just because." Especially when they know it's irrational. Plus, it gives you a little stab back at the community, and helps bring overprotective parents down a notch, which, arguably, many of them need.
Good luck.
Disclaimer: My mother is an awesome person. Always has been. Unfortunately I was born with OCS (only-child syndrome) so we suffered occasional incidents of overprotectiveness like the one mentioned above. Everyone makes mistakes. It was just nice to be able to point one out.
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