Ovinomancer
No flips for you!
By "we" in the above, you really mean "you".
They shouldn't have to wait on you deciding it's okay for them to be able to live their lives. Black people didn't wait for white people to be okay with them before pushing for equality. Before challenging separate but equal.
This is the crux of the issue. People don't change until acted upon by an outside stimuli. You're *never* going to be okay with it unless you're exposed to it. You're not going to just wake up and be okay with same sex people people kissing.
It's taken decades to get this far. The first male homosexual kiss on television aired only seventeen years ago, while the first interracial kiss was back in '68. How much longer should they have to wait to be able to hold their partner's hand in public? Kiss them goodbye? Tell them they love them at a bus stop? Or any of the many, many things heterosexual couples can just do without a thought.
That's not cool.
First, because it's not about desire. That's reducing it to physical urges. It's about love and attraction. You can control your physical urges but you cannot change who you fall in love with. You cannot change who you find attractive. You can pretend. But that's living a lie.
It's totally fine for someone who has LGBTQ urges and leanings to decide to abstain from sexuality for religious reasons. Just like it's okay for heterosexual and cis people to do the same when they join the priesthood or a convent.
But it's NOT okay for them to adopt the pretence of a heterosexual lifestyle, because that's involving someone else in their lie. Being in a loveless marriage is not an ideal situation for any party, and it's denying the other partner the opportunity to find someone who loves them in return. (Unless they know and are wholly aware of the situation... and aren't fooling themselves into thinking their partner can change.) Especially when kids become involved.
Just a point, but if this is about doing what's right for you, why do you feel that you get to say how other people should be gay? If that's how they want to be, well, that's for them to say, isn't it? It might not be right for you, and I certainly think it's a bit daft, but let's not go defining the right way to be gay (or straight, or black, or white, or how to play D&D). You do you, and respect how they do them.