Did I do the right thing?

[Mystery Man]

She has not done anything to me, really, except be really neurotic.

A neurotic pot smoker? Let me get over my shock!

But the reason I called to police was because EVERYTIME we got in her car to go soemplace, she would either pop open a beer or light a joint while driving, so i know she did it all the time. She had no respect for me. I'm subject to random drug tests at my job, the only thing she cared about was getting high.

Yeah, thats not cool.

 

[loki44]

She has not done anything to me, really, except be really neurotic. But the reason I called to police was because EVERYTIME we got in her car to go soemplace, she would either pop open a beer or light a joint while driving, so i know she did it all the time. She had no respect for me. I'm subject to random drug tests at my job, the only thing she cared about was getting high.

Okay, for legal purposes, all illegal activities are alleged. So, she's neurotic and inconsiderate of the fact that you're subject to random drug tests and she's not. I'd say you did the right thing based on the "neurotic" observation. Still not sure what you're sweatin' here bro.....

 

[loki44]

Boy I tell ya, pot smokers are getting pretty brave lately. I've seen 3 different people light up on one of those tiny little pot pipes in traffic in the last 3 months. What the heck gives man?

I guess the "War on Drugs" has been dropped in favor of some other just War.

 

[BSF]

You absolutely did the right thing. It isn't always easy to do the right thing and it is hard to bail on somebody that you once cared for. But you are talking about somebody that is getting high off pot or alcohol while driving. Slowed reaction times alone are a risk.

Narcing somebody out to the cops probably doesn't feel good, but how would you feel if you didn't say anything and found out she ran somebody over while high? Are you feeling like you didn't do enough to help her? In the end, all you can do is offer encouragement to seek help. She has to choose to seek and accept help herself.

I'm sorry you lost a girlfriend over it, but given the options it seems like you were out of choices.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

She has not done anything to me, really, except be really neurotic. But the reason I called to police was because EVERYTIME we got in her car to go soemplace, she would either pop open a beer or light a joint while driving, so i know she did it all the time. She had no respect for me. I'm subject to random drug tests at my job, the only thing she cared about was getting high.

You were right to dump her. She doesn't seem to give a crap about you at all. Just getting high and drunk was all she cared about. Sometimes it takes "tough love" to try to straighten someone out.... Maybe if she got caught, she *might* get help. Might. Or else she'd be totally pissed at you. But then you're done with her and it now goes under, "oh, well"...

 

[Staffan]

Did she cross the line?

Where I'm coming from, chugging booze and smoking pot while driving is pretty frickin' far across the line.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Where I'm coming from, chugging booze and smoking pot while driving is pretty frickin' far across the line.

Not to mention several degrees of illegal.

In the extreme.

I don't know what DWI classifies as.... if it's actually a felony but I know drug possession is one.

 

[reanjr]

By breaking it off? Sure, if you feel that strongly about it. Notifying police and indicating that she is a danger to society? That's kind of... weird. And unfriendly.

Doctors prescribe medication all the time to people that impairs them for driving much more than marijuana ever could. And they don't notify the police that this person might be a danger.

Alcohol is certainly not a good mix with driving, but to be honest, unless you're rip roaring drunk or it's the middle of the day, most drunk drivers do just fine. They're waaay more likely to injure themselves than to injure others, especially at 3AM with no traffic about. And isn't that their prerogitive?

I guess it all depends on context how dangerous she is on the road, but I still think calling th police is just overdoing it.

Not to mention, unless this is some podunk police department with less than a half dozen officers, I highly doubt they're going to do anything at all about the call. [edit] or a private police force

 

[Del]

I love drinking in the streets, but never ever should anyone drink and drive. You did the right thing man.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Alcohol is certainly not a good mix with driving, but to be honest, unless you're rip roaring drunk or it's the middle of the day, most drunk drivers do just fine. They're waaay more likely to injure themselves than to injure others, especially at 3AM with no traffic about. And isn't that their prerogitive?

Au contraire, you usually hear alot about drunk drivers who seriously hurt or kill others due to their stupidity yet they WALK AWAY. Or should I say, "stagger"? But they're less apt to get hurt due to being more relaxed from all the booze. You're just basically condoning people to get out and drink and drive, just 'cause you say "they'll do just fine". That's a load of horse manure if I ever heard anything! They are the main causes of accidents out on the road late at night, usually doing far more damage and harm to others just because they're a bunch of stupid, ignorant assheads who don't care about who they hurt just because they're too stupid to either call a cab or call home or get a buddy to take them home! And then they have to live with the consequences of their actions for the rest of their lives, especially if they hurt or kill others.... This is just plain wrong. If you're gonna drink, be responsible. If you're gonna get totally drunk, make sure you have some other means of getting home or crashing at the place you're at. There is NO EXCUSE.