Did I do the right thing?

[Darth K'Trava]

Well, as I said, even laws are relative. They differ from place to place. And I don't think the drugs/alcohol problems are the center point, but the question, how to deal with them in a relationship. I'm not up for easy answers here.

Considering that there's NOT an easy solution to this quagmire of events... There usually isn't when it comes to people interacting with other people and throwing in lots of variables that would blow a math major's brain... :\

 

[Turjan]

She did it with me 3 times. The first time I was surpised, then she said she "had to have it", the next two times I said we need to talk about it later, but she kept blowing me off about it. So I knew she had a problem, I was willing to let a couple of times go, but she told me she does it all the time. So I am guilty of not acting sooner. Should I have warned her that I called the police? Does a impared driver warn the police before they get behind the wheel?

The question I pose myself is what kind of relationship you had. I know that it's not a good thing to be too lenient with drug users. You have to be firm in your actions. But it's pretty clear that calling the police closes the door once and for all. This is the point that makes me question the relationship: was it really that serious? Is there any deeper interest for the other person that goes further than the damaged ego?

Heidi was the first close friend I had that did drugs, so I had a strong reaction. She also said she used to smoke pot, but never wanted to anymore. Now thinking back on it, she decevied me thinking she did not want to do that anymore. Buy like I siad before, if she was just doing it in private and not driving, I would not have called the police, but when you are driving like that, you are a danger, IMO.

Well, you probably are. Anyway, the story still makes me think that she was just a loose acquaintance and nothing else.

 

[KenM]

Well, you probably are. Anyway, the story still makes me think that she was just a loose acquaintance and nothing else.

We were very close. Thats all you need to know.

 

[Turjan]

We were very close. Thats all you need to know.

Well, then I stand by what I said before.

I'm not sure how having a parent with drug problems would change my view. Maybe, the place I had been living at for a decade made me somewhat used to that situation. I did not like those flocks of junkies begging for money. I did not like those used syringes on the stairs in the morning. I hated when the dealers hid their stuff in the bushes on the children's playground. I didn't feel well between those dealer gangs selling their stuff in the hallways of the underground. But somehow, this was part of everyday life. With this in mind, those people smoking pot in the street at the canal on a sunny Sunday afternoon didn't bother me in the slightest .

 

[Ampolitor]

I must say im pretty ticked about some of the comments going on pro marijuana and driving? are you nuts. Those who know me know Ive been a cop for a long time. Marijuana IMPAIRS you worse than alcohol when you drive. Ive taken many people to the hospital and to the morgue because of morons who drink or smoke behind the wheel. I had a girl last week who was caught driving smoking, and two years ago she did the same thing and she crashed and killed her little sister.
If your having heart surgery would you want your surgeon taking a "smoke: break? of course not so why should you have the right to drive a 4,000 lb vehicle down a roadway? Im on DWI 15 so far and I will continue to nail drinkers and smokers as much as I can, because my wife and kids drive on the same roadway. You did the right thing by dumping her, BESIDES the fact that if shes in your car and if you get pulled over all she would have to do is drop it anywhere in your car, and guess who goes to jail, its the law, the driver takes possession or both of you go. Its not worth it and yes it would happen Ive seen brother roll on each other.
Fpr those who wouldnt call the cops on her, how bad would you feel if she hit and killed your best frined, your mom, and you knew what she did, Im sure you would call if someoen was walking down the street with a gun.
For the poster who said doctors prescribe drugs that are worse, well yes they do BUT it is illegal to operate a motor when you take them and you will get arrested for DWI also. PEople need to learn their facts before they make statements, it is ILLEGAL to take ANYTHING that impairs your senses while driving and YES you can be arrested for it, paint, whip its, marijuana, crack, etc,, and prescription drugs, and yes even Nyquil, if your involved in a accident.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Ampoliter: I'm with you on this one! As my previous statements have proved. I also found it wrong that people are so supportive of drinking and smoking pot.... that's just wrong. Both morally and legally. I don't know about this girl, but I sure wouldn't want to have on my conscience that I'd killed someone because I had been so

stupid!

 

[KenM]

Ampoliter, when she did it with me, it was always in her car, never mine. If she did it in my car, I would have thrown her out fast. Question, what could have happened to me as a passanger and she got pulled over with it?

 

[Ampolitor]

Imo

well in NC and NY if she dropped it she could of made the argument that it was yours and 1) the cop could still charge her since its her car, 2) BOTH of you could be charge for poss, or 3) he could charge you, it would all depend on what she said and how believable, but most of the time in my experience both are charged unless she admits that it is hers.

 

[Mallus]

PEople need to learn their facts before they make statements, it is ILLEGAL to take ANYTHING that impairs your senses while driving

So there's no legal limit for blood alcohol level where you're an officer? Any measurable amount is illegal?

Look, I personally think the woman was a fool. And all I know about her level of impairment is what the original posted described, which can be summed up as "not enough for me to get out of the car, but enough for me to go to police after I broke up with her".

I get the feeling that if the woman as a habitual speeder, people would be reacting quite differently to Ken's involving the authorities. Let me ask you as an officer, isn't speeding (say at 20 MPH+ the posted limit) a major contributing factor in auto accidents?

 

[Mallus]

I also found it wrong that people are so supportive of drinking and smoking pot.... that's just wrong. Both morally and legally.

1) Drinking isn't illegal. Operating a motor vehicle with a blood alcohol level in excess of the legal limit is.

2) You're free to feel that drinking is morally wrong. Many people feel otherwise.

3) For the record, I don't believe the womans actions were right. I do, however, believe that KenM's actions were low and cowardly. Both can be true. And I suspect he believes that too (or else why start this thread? He could just as easily posted a thread called "I had to do a very difficult thing").