does a nice, shy, meek guy have a chance in hell?
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Why would you think that?Aaron L said:
Sorry, I have not read all the replies, but BSF was telling me about this thread at dinner and how he suggested the ball room dancing. I wanted to add my experience about dating a "nice guy."
When I was in college, I dated a guy who was hot (looked like johnny dep but with more defined muscles), had a motorcycle, was extremely intelligent, but waaaaaay too nice and not confident. I say way too nice because he was always doing things for me so that I would like him. Not because he liked me, but because he needed me to like him. He was calling me sweetie every five minutes, would call an hour before the date to make sure we were still going out, would buy me stuff to impress me. It was just too much. I could not give him the attention he required to feel good about himself because that's something he needed to learn how to do on his own. For me, when somebody needs me to need them, it's a big turn off. I have my own things I want to do and I want a man to be a companion with and not someone's security blanket.
Sooooo I think ball room dancing is a great idea, or just finding something you like that you want to do. Something that makes life enjoyable to you. Not something to hide behind, but something you truly enjoy. Then you will hopefully start seeing other things you truly enjoy and do them. And like people have mentioned, you are moving out of the angsty years and into the laid back years. Life is good in the thirties. Find people you enjoy being with because you like what they have to offer and not because you hope they like you. L
When I was in college, I dated a guy who was hot (looked like johnny dep but with more defined muscles), had a motorcycle, was extremely intelligent, but waaaaaay too nice and not confident. I say way too nice because he was always doing things for me so that I would like him. Not because he liked me, but because he needed me to like him. He was calling me sweetie every five minutes, would call an hour before the date to make sure we were still going out, would buy me stuff to impress me. It was just too much. I could not give him the attention he required to feel good about himself because that's something he needed to learn how to do on his own. For me, when somebody needs me to need them, it's a big turn off. I have my own things I want to do and I want a man to be a companion with and not someone's security blanket.
Sooooo I think ball room dancing is a great idea, or just finding something you like that you want to do. Something that makes life enjoyable to you. Not something to hide behind, but something you truly enjoy. Then you will hopefully start seeing other things you truly enjoy and do them. And like people have mentioned, you are moving out of the angsty years and into the laid back years. Life is good in the thirties. Find people you enjoy being with because you like what they have to offer and not because you hope they like you. L
Also....it looks like you are an anime fan. Any anime clubs out there? If not, maybe you could suggest a gaming store start one. We had a gaming store here that did anime every thursday night or so, and it seemed fairly popular until the owners moved to memphis. If nothing else, Ghost in the Shell Second Gig Volume 2 is coming out right before Thanksgiving and we can all look forward to that 
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Eeralai said:Also....it looks like you are an anime fan. Any anime clubs out there? If not, maybe you could suggest a gaming store start one. We had a gaming store here that did anime every thursday night or so, and it seemed fairly popular until the owners moved to memphis. If nothing else, Ghost in the Shell Second Gig Volume 2 is coming out right before Thanksgiving and we can all look forward to that
I live in a horrible little town in Pennsylvania. An anime club wouldnt do very well around here. And I dont really like anime beyond Tenchi. There isnt even a game store anywhere near here. Hell, book stores dont last more than a year in this town.
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