Ever had others think you were gay?

[Bullgrit]

This comment in another thread:

I did get a laugh when I found out everyone at one place I worked assumed I was gay because I wasn't hitting on the women, didn't have a wife &/or kids

...got me thinking about this thread title.

When I was younger, I often had gay guys hit on me in one way or another, in normal, every-day situations. The first couple of times it happened, it bothered me. But then I realized it was a compliment and I easily and politely just explained I'm not gay. No muss, no fuss, no embarrassment for anyone. I wasn't effeminate or anything, but I was thin, single, and neat. It happened enough times in my 20s that by the time I grew out of the "look" brushing off the mistake was almost a habit -- I once said, "I'm not gay," to a guy who wasn't either but was just making small talk to pass the time standing in line.

Fortunately, apparently no woman ever thought I was gay, so setting off men's "gaydar" didn't seem to interfere with women's perceptions. But I did have an interesting evening at a gay/lesbian night club one time.

So how about you? Ever had someone(s) think you were gay?

I would also turn the question around for those who are gay, if they were ever assumed to be straight, but I'd think that would happen all the time as "straight" is pretty much usually the default assumption.

Bullgrit

 

[Dannyalcatraz]

I have had people think I'm gay; I'm not.

I have had people think I'm married/engaged; I'm not.

I have had people think I'm a leg-breaker; I'm not.

I have had people think I'm Mario van Peebles; I'm not.

Basically, I'm constantly telling people, "No, I'm not _______."

 

[Grehnhewe]

I remember in 7th grade one of the hot girls in my class asked me if I was gay. I am sure it had nothing to do with me playing DnD during recess.

Funnily enough, I met up with her again in college, and I ended up dating one of her best friends.

 

[Kramodlog]

I have a friend who is afraid to look gay. Like all the time. Each time we go out just the two of us, he always says stuff like "they think we are gay". We do bicker like an old couple, but I also make sure to act like a stereotype when he is being paranoid or to make comments like we are a couple when waitress comes close to us. Lulz.

I can be a very convincing effeminate man for some reason. Yet no one thinks I'm gay. Except for that one GF...

 

[Grehnhewe]

I can be a very convincing effeminate man for some reason. Yet no one thinks I'm gay. Except for that one GF...

Story?

 

[Kramodlog]

Not with this one.

 

[Olgar Shiverstone]

No. Apparently I'm either not attractive enough, or my lack of color-coordination gives me away.

 

[Elf Witch]

Since I have had the same roommate for the last 34 years and that roommate is a she people assume we are gay. We are not we just live together very well and since neither of us had any desire to get married in my case remarried we find living together saves money, and gives companionship. I don't care if people think it though I get annoyed when they ask and then don't believe me.

 

[jonesy]

Straight guys think I'm straight.

Gay guys think I'm gay.

Women generally realize that I'm perfectly bi. I don't know why that is. Women have a better sexual orientation radar? At least, the women I know? Or maybe bi women get the same reaction the other way around.

The bi I know are so varied I find it hard myself to figure out who we are. Ironic really. I think that's ironic, I'm not entirely sure. If only Alanis Morissette was here. Then I could ask for her autograph.

 

[Jeremy E Grenemyer]

Quite a bit, actually. Had a lot of fun in a gay bar while touring the town for my bachelor party.

It must be the fabulous beard.