Kae'Yoss
First Post
DonTadow said:This was a jerk reaction considering the situation. If you can't understand that people have family situations, then you should not game with people who have families.
I'll repeat it slowly, so you can write this down:
This is not about "family situations"
He's not complaining that because of the kids, the game had to be cancelled.
He's not saying that parents are not entitled to some leeway.
The problem is parents that thing because they have children, the whole world has to change to fit their mood.
The problem is not that the game was cancelled.
The problem is that when he suggested to bring the kids along if their people can't take care of them, they seemingly agreed. They didn't say anything about them being unconfortable about it.
The problem is that when they learned that their people can't take care of the kids, they did not only not go along with his suggestion, even though they had seemed willing to, but also not calling him as they learned of this.
The problem is that they didn't bother to call at all. If he handn't called that day to finalise some things, they might not have told him at all, and it's not that improbable that he would only have found out that the game is off after he sat there for like an hour, all the while worrying about them and their kids, and only after calling them to ask whether everything is alright, learning about the cancellation.
And again:
Having to cancel at the last minute because something happened = No problem
Having to cancel at the last minute because the children have priority = No problem
Knowing well in advance that the game had to be cancelled and not bothering to tell everyone else = Big problem. Extremely rude (and, in our gaming group, grounds for immediate dismissal unless the guy honestly forgot it, is honestly sorry about it, and apologises appropriately). The message is clear: "We don't value you or your time enough even for a short call."