Gaming and orgies don't mix

[megamania]

and 9 of 10 dentists agree

 

[Torm]

But I've not encountered people who I like who practice this kind of life.

Well !

And I was wondering about its effects on the children who probably don't know all there is that's going on in the room down the hall from theirs....

As in ANY situation, it depends on how the parents handle it. My wife and I have handled it so that when it hasn't worked out, it has been no more disturbing to the kids than having a good friend move away - probably about the same way a responsible single parent deals with dating when it doesn't work out. And we don't lie to our kids. The last time we had a girlfriend, our daughter was too small to understand much of it anyway, but our son knew that mommy and daddy had a girlfriend, and we had already had several talks with him about the different ways that people are. He was a little sad when we told him she wouldn't be coming around anymore, but more for us than for himself.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

It amazes me everyone is so weirded out by this thread and the subject it touches on. There is love and there is sex. I wonder if people are mixing or confusing the two.

Relax.

So long as no one is hurt I don't see the issue with it.

I think that is what is so shocking to me about the subjects in this thread. A three-way for the sex is something I can understand... it's something that I've heard practically every man I know express a desire to engage in. But, a three-way, loving, equal relationship is something that it a completely new topic to me.

 

[Torm]

But, a three-way, loving, equal relationship is something that it a completely new topic to me.

Think for a moment what would happen to society if, rather than seeing all the good guys get taken up and feeling like they have to make due with whatever dregs are left over - regardless of what that may mean for their lives and their kids - women could still find men of quality. PROVEN quality, because they are already demonstrating it in practice. Some might argue that this is unfair to the other men - it isn't. It provides a motivation early in life to straighten their acts up to compete properly - or to just go ahead and pursue a life of non-romantic pursuits, which isn't such a bad thing if they weren't suited to them in the first place. Also, think about what it does for a family when one parent can still stay home to raise the children, while TWO incomes can still come in from the other adults. And if one partner dies, in a lot of cases the other two would still have each other to get through it.

Not evangelizing, just pointing out that there are aspects to such a lifestyle that certainly make it nothing to frown on.

 

[devilish]

So I'm guessing that the original couple in question are looking for new players?

Which raises the question ... are they Player Characters or _Playa_ Characters?

 

[Torm]

Which raises the question ... are they Player Characters or _Playa_ Characters?

LOL.

 

[the Jester]

"swingers" - who generally admit what they're doing isn't strictly speaking right, but, "hey, take it easy, baby"

Not sure where you got this. I don't think there's anything wrong with livin' a swingin' lifestyle, though I've never quite been there. Nor do most swingers think it's wrong, ime.

 

[Rel]

Not evangelizing, just pointing out that there are aspects to such a lifestyle that certainly make it nothing to frown on.

You need to shut up, Torm. Us roleplaying geeks are having a hard enough time getting our share of the chicks as it is!

(Not me of course, being as how I'm happily married and I've got your cousin waiting in the wings just in case...)

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Why do you assume the sex itself is "kinky" just because the lifestyle is different? Not defensive, just curious.

That was my first thought when I first heard it.... Little did I know....

I'd say that if you've gamed with a few different gaming groups, you've probably gamed with someone who is involved in polyamory - or if they aren't, it is because the opportunity hasn't presented itself. SCA groups tend to draw poly people like moths to a lightbulb, for some reason - strange to me, because I've never really been that interested in it myself. (I think some of the trappings like weapons and clothes are nice, but prefer to "live in the now".) And SCA tends to overlap with RPGing, so..... But most poly people don't even have the tells that gay people have, so you might never know.

Well, the SCA is full of freaky people anyways.... :\ So far, in my gaming group, we don't have any polyamorous people. None that I'm aware of. I'm sure there's some at cons but I haven't run across them...

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Well !

Well, it's not like I've actually MET you in person.... And you and your wife are the only people I know who are polyamorous.

As in ANY situation, it depends on how the parents handle it. My wife and I have handled it so that when it hasn't worked out, it has been no more disturbing to the kids than having a good friend move away - probably about the same way a responsible single parent deals with dating when it doesn't work out. And we don't lie to our kids. The last time we had a girlfriend, our daughter was too small to understand much of it anyway, but our son knew that mommy and daddy had a girlfriend, and we had already had several talks with him about the different ways that people are. He was a little sad when we told him she wouldn't be coming around anymore, but more for us than for himself.

Ok. I didn't know how they'd percieve a "second mommy", not having experienced such myself... As long as they're cool with it, that's fine.