Gaming and orgies don't mix

[Darth K'Trava]

You need to shut up, Torm. Us roleplaying geeks are having a hard enough time getting our share of the chicks as it is!

(Not me of course, being as how I'm happily married and I've got your cousin waiting in the wings just in case...)

You know Torm... he's a greedy little whore.... Gotta have them all!

 

[Evilhalfling]

<snip> a customer who's a bit slow in the brain and a seemingly quiet sort, saying naughty stuff about what he'd like to do with this one blonde girl at work...

Bill O'Rilley shops at this store?

too much?

 

[Torm]

Not sure where you got this. I don't think there's anything wrong with livin' a swingin' lifestyle, though I've never quite been there. Nor do most swingers think it's wrong, ime.

Personal experience with people in "open relationships" and such. But as always, YMMV. And don't worry. I've never been one to judge individuals based on an impersonal trend I've noticed, anyway - there's always a Good Samaritan out there somewhere.

 

[Torm]

Bill O'Rilley shops at this store?

LMAO at Evilhalfling.

Now, now. If you wish to opine, no bloviating - that's his job. Bloviating.

 

[the Jester]

Personal experience with people in "open relationships" and such. But as always, YMMV. And don't worry. I've never been one to judge individuals based on an impersonal trend I've noticed, anyway - there's always a Good Samaritan out there somewhere.

I've always found the best policy is to be honest and respect one's partner, and to bear in mind that they are worthy of the utmost respect and courtesy; it's no good to hurt their feelings to get a taste of some new piece of ass (or sausage, as the case may be).

Torm, you have a very enlightened view (imho) and you sound like someone I'd be honored to meet.

 

[Fenris]

Think for a moment what would happen to society if, rather than seeing all the good guys get taken up and feeling like they have to make due with whatever dregs are left over - regardless of what that may mean for their lives and their kids - women could still find men of quality. PROVEN quality, because they are already demonstrating it in practice. Some might argue that this is unfair to the other men - it isn't. It provides a motivation early in life to straighten their acts up to compete properly - or to just go ahead and pursue a life of non-romantic pursuits, which isn't such a bad thing if they weren't suited to them in the first place. Also, think about what it does for a family when one parent can still stay home to raise the children, while TWO incomes can still come in from the other adults. And if one partner dies, in a lot of cases the other two would still have each other to get through it.

Not evangelizing, just pointing out that there are aspects to such a lifestyle that certainly make it nothing to frown on.

Excellent points Torm. But part of the reason this lifestyle is so rare is not only the shortage of quality men to participate, but of women, confident and selfless enough to participate. You enlightened beings are few and far between you know But finding three people who can share a relationship equally, regardless of gender, is the tough part there.

As for me, well, a poly lifestyle would just mean I would put my foot in my mouth twice as often as I do now. Heck I am outmatched by my wife now, I don't need to give her an ally

 

[Gentlegamer]

Why do you assume the sex itself is "kinky" just because the lifestyle is different? Not defensive, just curious.

I'd say that if you've gamed with a few different gaming groups, you've probably gamed with someone who is involved in polyamory - or if they aren't, it is because the opportunity hasn't presented itself. SCA groups tend to draw poly people like moths to a lightbulb, for some reason - strange to me, because I've never really been that interested in it myself. (I think some of the trappings like weapons and clothes are nice, but prefer to "live in the now".) And SCA tends to overlap with RPGing, so..... But most poly people don't even have the tells that gay people have, so you might never know.

It's the Reny crowd that crosses over into the SCAers, that is what you have noticed. Renys are notoriously randy.

*Hides photos of self at Ren Fest in garb*

 

[Desdichado]

If you wish to opine, no bloviating - that's his job. Bloviating.

Wow, that's almost as cool a word as chunder...

 

[Torm]

But part of the reason this lifestyle is so rare is not only the shortage of quality men to participate, but of women, confident and selfless enough to participate.

I really don't think the jealousy is hardwired in women though, like it is in a lot of men, from what I've seen, so much as it is brought forward by socialization and their opinion of the specific other woman involved. An example: If I say a woman that my wife is friends with or finds appealing is attractive, she meets me with nothing but agreement. But if I say a woman she has a low opinion of, or that she for some reason thinks would try to come between us, is attractive, I'm (very briefly) in the doghouse.

And really, I think that is what jealousy in women is about (ladies here can correct me if I'm wrong for them, of course) - whether someone is coming between them and the relationship that is already theirs or threatening their kids somehow. With men it usually seems more territorial.

 

[Torm]

As for me, well, a poly lifestyle would just mean I would put my foot in my mouth twice as often as I do now. Heck I am outmatched by my wife now, I don't need to give her an ally

With the right other woman, THIS, in my experience is a LOT more like what actually happens than either of them getting jealous.