Gencon Couples, Help me!

[BrooklynKnight]

Hey guys, and gals.

I'm trying to convince my GF (Ruaalien2) to join me for Gencon this year, assuming of course either one of us can afford to go.

She recently rolled her first stats, and bought her first set of dice. I bought her a PHB and D&D For Dummies too.

Anywho, she's afraid she'll be bored, or have nothing to do. Even if she's not gonna go to play.

I was wondering, how many couples do you know that go to gencon together? Last year I met quite a few people that were there with their significant others.

Tell us some stories and help set her mind at ease!

 

[ruaalien2]

It's also the fact that I know how much you enjoy it, and I know you will hardly realize I'm there until it's time to curl up and go to sleep.

As much as I know you would like me to go, I think it will be better for you to go without me, Art. You'll enjoy it so much more then I will, and your not gonna want to deal with me if I'm not enjoying myself.

 

[RangerWickett]

. . . the last time I went with a significant other to GenCon, it was 8 months after we had broken up, and we roadtripped together, sharing motel rooms to save money.

I'll say no more.

Ru', the key to a Con is to do fun things. It's a huge place; if you're at all interested in sci-fi, fantasy, video games, card games, or the rich cultural tradition of Indiana, you'll find something to do at GenCon. I know that when I go with friends, I plan maybe one or two events a day to do together; we ultimately end up just linking back up at the room in the evening, chatting about how much fun we had, and looking at each other's swag.

In a purely platonic sense, of course.

Unless, of course, we're talking about the last time I went to a con with a significant other, in which case . . . well.

 

[I'm A Banana]

I'd theoretically advise against dragging *any* potentially unwilling participant into a massive ball of gamer geekdom. Anyone who should be there should want to be there enough to want to be there, and if they're not, it's *really* easy to not enjoy. It's an all-or-nothing kind of thing, really, especially if you don't live nearby.

And abscence does make the heart grow fonder, after all.

The people I've met at Gen Con with SO's are either the married type, the local type, or the type that both loves the idea of loosing themselves in a weekend of gaming. They certainly weren't n00blings affraid of being bored (no offense, Rua. ).

So leave her at home. Leaves more room for the rest of us rabid fans.

 

[Whizbang Dustyboots]

It's also the fact that I know how much you enjoy it, and I know you will hardly realize I'm there until it's time to curl up and go to sleep.

This is why my wife no longer comes to Comic-Con. It's a very valid thing to think about, and doesn't necessarily mean anything about the relationship (I certainly love my wife down to the ground), but it does mean that what seems like a good idea outside the con might not necessarily translate into money well-spent.

 

[BrooklynKnight]

I think i should add more info.

The week of Gencon is 2 weeks before Caryn (Ruaalien2) leaves for her new college in Rhode Island.

For the last year we've practically spent every day together, with the exceptions of times when I went to Gencon or Winter Fantasy, or when she went on a cruise with her mother.

After she leaves, due to financial and time constraints, as well as other responsiblities (working to pay rent), It will be weeks/months between our visits together.

The dilemma is, that If I go to gencon, I'm spending less time with her. But If I dont go to gencon I'll be misrable. She saw how I moped around like a neutered dog during Gencon So-Cal cause my best friend went (whom I introduced to Gencon last August) and I didnt.

My solution, is that she go with me. This way not only is she exposed to something very important to me, but we still spend some of that time together.

I dont beleive she'll really be bored if she goes with me. Even if she's not as much of a geek as the rest of us. I'm sure she'll be able to find SOMETHING to do when she cant join me in what I'm doing. Plus her National Sororites home office is in Indy, and she could visit them whilst there.

It all boils down to the fact that, If I go alone, we're apart and she'll be upset/depressed over it, and we'll miss one another (as any couple would). If I dont go, I'll be misrable and depressed over going and might even end up resenting her for it (subconciously anyway). At least if we BOTH go, neither of us ends up misreable or depressed andwe spend time together. Oh, and she becomes more of a geek, joining us in the dark side. :-D

 

[BrooklynKnight]

The people I've met at Gen Con with SO's are either the married type, the local type, or the type that both loves the idea of loosing themselves in a weekend of gaming. They certainly weren't n00blings affraid of being bored (no offense, Rua. ).

So leave her at home. Leaves more room for the rest of us rabid fans.

Despite the fact that we arent actually married, you really couldnt tell otherwise. Heh.

 

[Keeper of Secrets]

If you drag someone to something like GenCon then they will have a bad time and resent you for it. If you want to be with her then just stay with her. I love GenCon as much as anyone but some things are more important.

 

[Hand of Evil]

While GENCON is a great time to be had, you may want to think about a weekend get-a-way just for the two of you.

 

[shilsen]

It all boils down to the fact that, If I go alone, we're apart and she'll be upset/depressed over it, and we'll miss one another (as any couple would).

I'm just going off her admittedly very short post, but ruaalien2 didn't sound like she'll be upset/depressed over it. And if being apart for a few days makes either of you upset or depressed, a little practice is probably good for you.

If I dont go, I'll be misrable and depressed over going and might even end up resenting her for it (subconciously anyway). At least if we BOTH go, neither of us ends up misreable or depressed andwe spend time together.

True, but is dragging someone who doesn't want to go along (just because you want to) that good an idea? It does sound like you're just focused on both getting there and having her present, and justifying away her opinion.

Oh, and she becomes more of a geek, joining us in the dark side. :-D

That is always a consummation devoutly to be wished for, but didn't anyone tell you that you can lead people to the Dark Side but you can't force them to succumb?

In short, my 2 cents: Let her do what she wants. Doing things you don't want to do purely for your significant other (and making him/her do it for you) is significantly uncool.