King_Stannis
Explorer
Teflon Billy said:And there's the advice you need right there.
Don't accept any behaviour from gamers that you wouldn't accpet from anyone else. Our extended group of gamers (about 30-ish people all told) are cool people who I hang out with outside of gaming.
to quote EN World's own AlsiH2o..."If I don't want to have a beer with you, I don't want to game with you. Period."
And it's good advice. I know it's not a popular opinion around here, but in my experience, most gamers I've met at gaming functions (Conventions, Gaming Clubs etc) are Social Retards. I'm not tempted to invite them into my home as they smell bad, ogle my wife, can't shut up...I mean the list goes on and on.
So we grow our own gamers. Our weekly games are pretty much the defining social events of our peer group. If someone new is interested in playing and gets an ok from someone we know, they play a few games.
Sometimes one side or the other doesn't "click" for whatever reason and no problem.
Sometimes we get a new regular.
But honestly, if you don't appreciate racist jokes, and some guy in your game won't stop making them, well--it almost writes itself--don't game with that guy.
I'll echo all those thoughts. I don't think it's a mistake that I consider the people I game with also my best friends. I wouldn't stand for having some jackass come into my home once a week and smelling up the joint. Thankfully my beautiful and lovely wife also games with us. That only means that I would be extra vigilant as to who to invite. In addition to the "can I have a beer with this person?" test, I can also give the "would I want my wife to sit next to this assclown for 5 hours a week?" test.
I'd say it breaks down thusly:
60% gamers are hopelessly socially retarded. These are the ones that don't practice hygiene, laugh inappropriately, ogle nice looking women like they are from another planet, etc.
25% are a toned down version of the first category. They don't have all the prerequisites, but they most likely have one or two. They may or may not fit into your group depending on how much the attributes they do have get on your nerves.
10% are regular Janes and Joes, and would be an asset to any group.
5% are a credit to gamers everywhere and if you are fortunate enough to have one in your group, you should thank your lucky stars.
5% of gamers can "fake it" enough to where they might be acceptable under the right circumstances.