I've "met" the perfect woman (for me).

[BrooklynKnight]

So are a lot of people.

Lol, its not that simple. I hope this is not crossing the religion line. But, I do not want to raise my children catholic, or jewish, or anything else.

When they come of age to start asking questions, I always planned to be as neutral as possible.

For them to make their own choices.

On this one note, we disagree.

She wants to raise her kids catholic, and let them make the choice to take it or leave it when they "come of age".

 

[BrooklynKnight]

bummer .. strictly or?

If she was i doubt she'd have ever talked to me

 

[Umbran]

On this one note, we disagree.

On this one note, among many others, you should not yet be concerning yourself.

I mean, think about it for just a second - you've had a phone call. You haven't even met this person face to face yet, and you're showing concern about how you might raise your kids? Jump the gun much?

Don't get ahead of yourself. You have a lot of territory to cover before you get anywhere near the subject of how children should be raised. I mean, you have not yet really fallen in love. Take care of what needs to be taken care of now. Blow up other bridges when you get to them, not before.

 

[Crothian]

Umbran is so right. ?Just enjoy the present and let the future take care of iteself.

 

[WanderingMonster]

Why do I have Billy Joel's Only the Good Die Young going through my head?

I suppose it's better than Haley Joel Osment's "I see dead people!" going thorugh my head.

 

[Darkness]

Why do I have Billy Joel's Only the Good Die Young going through my head?

Because you're bad, jealous and willing to take matters into your own bloodied hands?

 

[jgbrowning]

Umbran is so right. ?Just enjoy the present and let the future take care of iteself.

Yep. Don't think about the future till the time to think about the future arrives. You need to take time to make a present before you worry about the future. When the present is taken care off, then move on.

Be utterly certain to give her time to show you who she is as opposed to thinking about who she is in your head. Your mind's image of her won't be accurate.

Good luck,

joe b.

 

[Ashwyn]

She wants to raise her kids catholic, and let them make the choice to take it or leave it when they "come of age".

I don't see much hope for you two then. That's not a small thing, and someone will have to seriously compromise which will lead to resentment, and that leads to fighting, and it only gets worse from there. Of course, one of you could change your mind before then, but it's not likely. I know you didn't post asking for advice, but I wouldn't recommend getting into a relationship with a large problem in the somewhat foreseeable future and just hoping it will work out. Odds are, it won't. That said, enjoy yourself for the time being. I pray you don't go through the pain I did, when I had an unrealistic, idealized version of love. Don't expect things to always be good and happy. They won't be. Expect to be miserable sometimes. Relationships are work. Do not forget these things, because doing so sets you up ot be used and thrown away.

Congratulations though. I really mean it.

 

[the Jester]

The snag?
*sigh*

She's catholic. :-(

So are a lot of pagans I know.

Besides, you know what they say about Catholic girls. (wink wink nudge nudge)

 

[ASH]

So are a lot of pagans I know.

Besides, you know what they say about Catholic girls. (wink wink nudge nudge)

You are so naughty Jester..just because a girl is catholic does not mean that she is easy.

But, then again there are few girls that come from the catholic school here, that arn't.. but that does not mean anything..!

As far as relationships go, its great that you seem to have a connection. I am all for not jumping in to anything, because its the internet and you never really know a person. Even when you've been married to them for a few years, you find things out that you didn't know. Take it slow, get to know her, and dont expect that crazy new feeling to last forever. I have known a few people that get in to relationships that over the computer were great, then came the first real fight, face to face and it all falls apart.

As far as her being a redhead, YAY!!! I have red hair and so does my husband, and both my kids.
Becareful of her temper, if its her natural hair color, us redheads have crazy tempers.