On number of ignores

[FitzTheRuke]

Your convenience needs to take a back seat compared to actually protecting victims of stalking.

I'm not saying this as a counterpoint, but as a curiosity: Is there a lot of "stalking" going on here on ENWorld? (I can imagine it in other places on the internet - thankfully places that I would never find myself.)

 

[doctorbadwolf]

Most people who I ignore only stay ignored until the thread where I decided to ignore them goes quiet, and then get in ignored again. Most of the permanent ignores said soemthing that would get them kicked out of my store, or my FLGS, or a party, usually along the lines of “anti-inclusion” rhetoric, or they’re people who habitually belittle people.


I wouldn’t be surprised if I’m high on the list there. I’m okay with that, tbh. I can see most posts on the forums, anyway.

 

[doctorbadwolf]

You're making this about yourself, despite being told repeatedly the function is not geared towards your case. You're making yourself look like an entitled fool by trying to paint your situation as a significant bug and by appearing to not even consider the real reasons the functionality is even offered.

Your convenience needs to take a back seat compared to actually protecting victims of stalking.

Nah the feature as implemented is pretty damn annoying. No one needs to pretend otherwise just because some sort of two-way blocking is needed.

I have several times had parts of posts misinterpreted, with difficulty figuring out why, because someone reading it had someone else blocked and was using the option to not see even the “this content is from someone you have ignored” sticker.

 

[Sacrosanct]

A while ago, I seem to recall that if someone quotes someone who had you on ignore, you saw the reply as normal, but the quoted part was "post hidden". That seemed to work because while I didn't see the quote from the person who I ignored, I knew the other person was replying to another person, which helped put everything into context.

 

[Sacrosanct]

Ironically (or coincidentally), that list has now changed by +1.

It's not a competition to the top folks.

 

[Maxperson]

Nah the feature as implemented is pretty damn annoying. No one needs to pretend otherwise just because some sort of two-way blocking is needed.

I have several times had parts of posts misinterpreted, with difficulty figuring out why, because someone reading it had someone else blocked and was using the option to not see even the “this content is from someone you have ignored” sticker.

I had no idea that option even existed. That should just be standard I think. A lot of posts where someone is quoted are easily mistakable for stand alone posts. That tag would at least warn someone that there is more than it seems.

 

[Gradine]

I'm not saying this as a counterpoint, but as a curiosity: Is there a lot of "stalking" going on here on ENWorld? (I can imagine it in other places on the internet - thankfully places that I would never find myself.)

I've experienced it at other forums, definitely. Less so here, though the site has been brigaded in the past and it's those types of communities that breed doxxers and stalkers. If there ever happened to be a significant queer community here (something I'd like to think isn't that far utside the realm of possibility) that's a good way to get a target painted on us.

Its a pretty valuable thing to be able to block who can see my posts. I won't argue that the implementation could be more user friendly (or safer!) because obviously it could be better. But the two-way ignore is a very, very, good thing.

If you find yourself blocked by enough people that it's making it hard for you to engage in threads, then that is the feature working as intended, and I have zero tears to shed for you. That's the bed you've made yourself, and you're gonna have to lie on it

 

[FitzTheRuke]

I've experienced it at other forums, definitely. Less so here, though the site has been brigaded in the past and it's those types of communities that breed doxxers and stalkers. If there ever happened to be a significant queer community here (something I'd like to think isn't that far utside the realm of possibility) that's a good way to get a target painted on us.

Its a pretty valuable thing to be able to block who can see my posts. I won't argue that the implementation could be more user friendly (or safer!) because obviously it could be better. But the two-way ignore is a very, very, good thing.

If you find yourself blocked by enough people that it's making it hard for you to engage in threads, then that is the feature working as intended, and I have zero tears to shed for you. That's the bed you've made yourself, and you're gonna have to lie on it

I assume you mean the collective "you" - I hope that I have not been blocked by anyone. As far as I know I haven't. I asked because I'm interested in learning more about your perspective. I've made mistakes when it comes to trans people (misgendering through ignorance and that sort of thing, nothing intentional) but I would try to defend someone who was being oppressed for any reason, if my help was at all welcomed or warranted. I'd like to be an ally when I can. I hope that most of the time you feel safe here on ENWorld. (All of the time would be better, but it might be too much for me to hope for.)

 

[Maxperson]

That's the bed you've made yourself, and you're gonna have to lie on it

It isn't, though. Probably 80-90% of those who have me blocked initiated contentions interactions with me and then couldn't handle what they started and blocked me. The other 10-20% didn't like watching those interactions and shut it down just to avoid it, which I can respect. I can't respect the hypocrisy of the rest and those weren't a bed I made. If I started the contentious interactions, I could agree with you on this.

 

[Morrus]

and then couldn't handle what they started

This is a problematic attitude. Your job isn't to treat my forum like the wild west. I have no sympathy for it. Like Gradine said, your choice and your bed; you've been ignored by so many people that the forums are difficult to use for you.

I mean, since you won't let it lie - yes, you are on that list. Not the top person, but right up near the top. I imagine the forums appear pretty quiet for you.