Jeff Wilder
First Post
Frankly, I'm pretty fascinated by this discussion, so keep it coming, as long as folks have something to say. There are a couple of data points and observations I want to inject:
First, I know my girlfriend's jealous behavior very well. This really is no form of jealousy. My girlfriend isn't in the slightest concerned about me -- her 39-year-old boyfriend -- developing a wandering eye -- or anything else -- for a 16-year-old girl. Truth is, if she were jealous, it would bug me much less, because her attitude toward D&D and every D&D player in the world -- except, of course, me and the few she actually knows personally -- is obnoxious, and one of the few serious issues in our relationship. Jealousy, however silly, is at least something I can sort of understand. But jealousy has rarely been a weakness of hers.
Her take on this is informed by some ultra-WASPY sense of propriety. (Which is strange enough, because she's Jewish ... ) It's not even concern for actual trouble, as some of y'all have expressed, but just concern over how things would look. And here's the kicker ... she feels that anybody reasonable would think it's improper, even if he or she understands completely what it's about and that it's entirely innocent. I feel like incrementing the twins' age, hypothetically, by a week at a time, and seeing exactly where she draws the line.
Second, I'm also a lawyer, so if my group and I do this, we'll protect ourselves (and them).
Third, it may of course be moot. If the twins' mom doesn't contact us, we won't allow them to observe or play again.
Fourth, unfortunately, game shop play isn't viable, due to schedules and other matters of logistics.
Fifth, regarding toning down language and such ... 16-year-olds differ. In my case, though I hung out with jocks and stoners in high school, I didn't start my swearing-like-a-sailor days until I was 21 or so. (I wasn't at all a goody-two-shoes ... I just hadn't developed the habit.) These kids seem younger than they actually are, so at the very least, we'd get to know them and let them calibrate the ribald-o-meter, at least within reason.
Sixth, if certain things here in the U.S. play out badly in November '08, I'll see about moving in with Steel_Wind.
Seventh, Mark is also a cool guy. Of the two of us, though, I am far less studly.
First, I know my girlfriend's jealous behavior very well. This really is no form of jealousy. My girlfriend isn't in the slightest concerned about me -- her 39-year-old boyfriend -- developing a wandering eye -- or anything else -- for a 16-year-old girl. Truth is, if she were jealous, it would bug me much less, because her attitude toward D&D and every D&D player in the world -- except, of course, me and the few she actually knows personally -- is obnoxious, and one of the few serious issues in our relationship. Jealousy, however silly, is at least something I can sort of understand. But jealousy has rarely been a weakness of hers.
Her take on this is informed by some ultra-WASPY sense of propriety. (Which is strange enough, because she's Jewish ... ) It's not even concern for actual trouble, as some of y'all have expressed, but just concern over how things would look. And here's the kicker ... she feels that anybody reasonable would think it's improper, even if he or she understands completely what it's about and that it's entirely innocent. I feel like incrementing the twins' age, hypothetically, by a week at a time, and seeing exactly where she draws the line.
Second, I'm also a lawyer, so if my group and I do this, we'll protect ourselves (and them).
Third, it may of course be moot. If the twins' mom doesn't contact us, we won't allow them to observe or play again.
Fourth, unfortunately, game shop play isn't viable, due to schedules and other matters of logistics.
Fifth, regarding toning down language and such ... 16-year-olds differ. In my case, though I hung out with jocks and stoners in high school, I didn't start my swearing-like-a-sailor days until I was 21 or so. (I wasn't at all a goody-two-shoes ... I just hadn't developed the habit.) These kids seem younger than they actually are, so at the very least, we'd get to know them and let them calibrate the ribald-o-meter, at least within reason.
Sixth, if certain things here in the U.S. play out badly in November '08, I'll see about moving in with Steel_Wind.
Seventh, Mark is also a cool guy. Of the two of us, though, I am far less studly.