OT: gaymers?

[Duncan Haldane]

Well, I recently discovered I was gay, and I really want to know just how many others surf these boards. It's depressing really... high school's gonna suck A LOT.

Hey, Tidus,

you've already seen posts from quite a few non-hetro gamers here, (I'm another one), but you might want to join the yahoo group gaymers.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gaymers/

HTH

Duncan

 

[TalonComics]

Excuse the l33t, but the must have sux0red, Angel. I like to think the human race is much more understanding than that, but sometimes I do wonder... Now, I don't want to pressure you, but I do wonder what happened to the people who did this to you. To quote Cashel: "kick him in the junk!" I hope the spent a lot of time in juvy for doing this. Of course, if you don't want to talk about it anymore, that's cool too.

Sigh, unfortunately, the human race is probably less understanding than that. It's pretty much a universal truth that mobs rule and minorities of any kind get beaten down.
I'm not Catholic or gay but I've lived in Texas for over 16 years now and I know you're going to have to be careful what you do and whom you confide in. There are just way too many closed minded people here and many of them will turn a blind eye to what amounts to prejudice.
I don't know where in Tx you're located but I suggest seeking out a gay and lesbian group for counseling and advice.

Hang in there,
~Derek

 

[Darrin Drader]

I'm in the straight-but-not-narrow group myself. It sounds like its going to be tough for you, even if you don't openly date guys. You're going to have a difficult time when people start the gay witch hunts (if they haven't already). Believe me, if you're any guy that can't get a date with a member of the opposite sex in highschool, you're a target for these things. Whether you happen to be gay or not has nothing to do with it. Of course if you let them get the best of you and you admit to it, then the class bully is going to make your life hell. As someone who has gay friends both in and out of the closet, I echo the sentiments that you should be very careful about who you let know about this and you should find a support group. Few things make me more sick to my stomach than hate crimes, and unfortunately gay people are often targets.

 

[Tarrasque Wrangler]

Not to mention the fact that I live in Texas and will be going to a Catholic high school. I bet 95 percent of the people there will be homophobic.

My advice to you my friend:

Keep your head down. Don't tell everyone you're gay, but don't lie if they ask.

Study hard.

Apply to, and preferably get accepted at, one of the many fine accredited higher learning facilities here in sunny, beautiful Northern California (Weather today: low-to-mid 70s and breezy ).

Stay here forever.

Seriously, it's like Gay Heaven out here. There were a couple years growing up when I almost wished I was gay, just because they're such a strong community here.

If you absolutely must stay in Texas (what is it about Texans?), I hear Austin's pretty cool.

I WANT the perfect 2.5 kids household. I WANT kids. And I might not even be able to adopt them. *sigh*

Another cool thing about Northern California, and the Bay Area in particular: there's lots of gay parents here. I used to do some work for Child Protective Services, and I get the feeling that if an educated, professional couple of guys making more than pocket change walks in the door, they'll just start throwing kids at you til you say "when".

 

[Argent Silvermage]

One Faerie Elf!

Hi. Just wanted to out myself to the 3 or 4 people who don't know.

High School will be tough but if you are able to get yourself into an after school gay/lesbian/transexual/bi youth group it will help greatly. I only wish I had known about them when I was young.

 

[Sixchan]

Round here, most of the better teenagers have gotten well past homophobia. Maybe it's just the school I work in, but were I a teenager at this school and gay, I would be absolutely unafraid to admit I was gay. I've seen plenty of guys all over each other at this school. People seem very secure in their sexuality these days. I've seen boys as straight as can be kiss each other without any uneasiness (many of my friends are still at this school, so I've got some experience with this, in err...more ways than one).

I dunno, maybe I work in an isolated case of a lack of homophobia (a case of Homophilia?), maybe this isn't that rare, or half of this school is at least bisexual...

 

[MEG Hal]

I know a few (friends also) and played in games with some gaymers and they role play great, you are invited to my table anytime! Good luck and be strong.

 

[Tom Cashel]

Re: Re: OT: gaymers?

That's pretty young to decide you are gay or hetero for that matter. Society puts too much emphasis on sex for young people. There really isn't a rush. Give yourself a chance to grow up before deciding anything.

Keep your head down. Don't tell everyone you're gay, but don't lie if they ask.

I have to agree with these pieces of advice, Tidus.

You have to realize that these other people whom you say "1.) don't know they are [gay] yet or 2.) are afraid to admit it. Or possibly 3.) in denial" have a right to keep it to themselves, or be in denial, or whatever. They're just figuring things out too. They're 14! Criminy!

And at the risk of deviating from the feel-good politically correct vibe, you might also try to see how your hetero friends, who are at an age where they have yet to figure out/come to terms with their heterosexuality (or any sexuality at all) might be a little creeped out by your declaration that you are gay, want to play gay characters in game (RPGs not necessarily being the best place to experiment and work that stuff out--why bring RL issues to a game?), etc.

I'm not saying it's right or wrong...I'm saying that teenagers rarely have the social skills and life experience to deal positively and proactively with this kind of situation.

I wish you luck in seeking out some who do.

 

[alsih2o]

Since high school is "gonna suck", I'm guessing you are about 13.

That's pretty young to decide you are gay or hetero for that matter.

i strongly disagree with this statement and think it is a bit tasteless to propose the notion in this thread.

 

[Tom Cashel]

Bah. 14 is the not the age to make life-decisions and cast them in stone.