This one matches my vision exactly. Indeed you have more vivid image in mind than me. So the difference isn't here.
Okay. For clarity, I consider this
extreme control, far above and beyond what I expect of "friends". Strangers/distant acquaintances, sure--I don't know their judgment. Anyone I'd call "friend" I know enough to at least loosely know their judgment.
A person exercising this level of control
over their friends is, to put it bluntly, weird and mildly concerning.
I wonder where you got those bolded parts from? I will give a stab at a speculation further down. But this do not harmonise with my vision. Indeed I have a hard time seing how that first thing could even be possible. The rest harmonises with my vision except I imagine we might differ a bit in what constitutes "harmful" in RPG context. (Including agreeing that the friends are behaving weirdly exemplary - but it is an example after all)
Instant deference is incompatible with giving any response--including comment or criticism. I had bolded this previously, here it is again: "rapidly shoots down any idea...that they are worried might damage their toy", coupled with "The friends...do not question or push, but immediately defers to the owner...whenever they voice any opinion regarding this toy's use."
First part means owner acts with maximum (effectively instant) speed when "shoot[ing] down" ideas. Second excludes any form of question or pushback the moment the owner speaks. Hence, together, they entail instant, total deference.
I don't think I never used the words "comment and critisise" in any of the two examples. In my mind the ability to comment and critisise has been an unquestioned ability, and as such my vision when writing has always included that posibility. Again, I wonder where you have gotten this notion from? And for this I cannot even speculate, so I would really like it if you can give me some more clue! (Even if zooming in on acceptability I can only see me describing the kid being opiniated about actions done with the toy - nothing about how the friends should express opinions about the toy)
See above. Instant deference is incompatible with commentary or criticism. They are forms of pushback, no matter how gentle. E.g. pausing and asking for an explanation of why an act is harmful is still pushback. (One major part of my issue with "absolute" power. Its absoluteness
is what denies or invalidates commentary/criticism.)
And it is absolutely not acceptable to run that car over rough surfaces!!!! (The fingerprints can be removed, even if the job might be tedious).
Seems an impasse. Analogically, this is saying "never, ever risk scuffing the paint". Never take actions that can meaningfully
change the setting; it must be, in some sense, pristine. When even minor, easily removed blemishes (e.g. fingerprints) are seen as a major concession, the primary concern is clearly the toy, not the other people.
I stand by all those words. But this I think is the crux. You missed an absolute essential 3 words in this summary: "being good friends". More below.
Well, I'm sorry, but as noted above, I don't believe such instant deference is something that can be rooted in friendship. Declaring that it arises from such a thing is not the same as that actually being the case. Friendship is rooted in
reciprocity; this isn't reciprocal in the least. There are many things we can
declare come from "being good friends" (or any other source) without that actually being true.
Or, if you prefer, that declaration is where you have erred, because you have made your reasoning circular. You have
presumed that this situation solely arises from "being good friends", when that very thing
is what you wanted to demonstrate. I won't accept the conclusion being included as one of the premises.
The reason for instant deference is absolutely crucial for this example, and you seem to have missed it. They are so well behaved because they are being good friends. It is not because of some notion on the friend or kid's part that such behavior would be unaccepable. No test for what would have happened if any of the kids had deviated from this is included in the example as it simply doesn't happen.
I just cannot accept this connection. It does not compute. "Friendship" requires back-and-forth--reciprocity--and this has been specifically defined to have no reciprocity whatsoever.