And I find both very unlikely? Where did
@Lanefan explicitely state they wouldn't have an adult conversation with the player to unearth why they were interested in playing a dragonborn,
before needing to assess if they were going to accept or reject it? It seem like you are inserting the assumption they wouldn't? If I were forced to make a guess I would lean much more toward the intepretation that they would indeed have this discussion.
So if we indeed assume
my most likely intepretation, the fact that Lanefan find themselves needing to make a judgement call sort of implies to me that there must have been some sort of insistence going on at the player's part.