Romantic Angst and D&D

Movies:
Romeo and Juliet( with Hussy in it)
LadyHawk
My So Called Life( great series)
Life Goe On (another great series,Rebbeca is the heroian)
Ivanhoe

As for Lost soul, feeling that way is normal. We all fall short of others expextaions. But some things to consider:

No matter what things you had /had not done, you were still her child and she loved you .

Think about all of the GOOD things that transpired between you. I have no doubt that THOSE things were in her mind before she passed on.

Learn from it. Mom's gone now you have all these other people in your life. If you dont try to make good these relationships to the fullest than maybe you should feel guilty. They're here right now.
 

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Zappo said:
Ok, but that doesn't make a good plot. :D

Yeah, Taoism usually makes for a bad plot, hehe. In a <i>game</i>, definitely, screw people over. Emotional blackmail, manipulation, deciet, backstabbing, all that fun stuff. ;)
 

There were suggestions as to fantasy lit with strong romantic overtones. I suggest The Sword of Truth series by Terry Goodkind. Well at least the first two books of the series, as they are wonderful reads. The others are decent, but the author is meandering a bit, IMHO.

Goodkind knows how to pull the strings to keep the lovers apart or halfway miserable, while immersing it in good plots of warfare and magic.
 

I never use angst in my games because at the root of it, all angst is..... is feeling bad.

i dont wany my players, myself or anyone to feel bad. I think people get enough of it in RL.

[stepping off soapbox]

as for your situation, i'd ask your wife WHY she wants angst in her game. pin her down by a successive series of whys until you get to the root core of why she wants angst. having done this with people before, more than likely its not the angst that she wants but something else that she associates with angst. include that in your game if you can.

just my .002$, and not meaning to offend.

joe b.
 

Reynard said:


I disagree wholeheartedly. If you read modern fantasy (basically 90% of everything post-Tolkien), it is basically a form of romantic litertaure. Not only do women read fantasy far more than men do (men read more science fiction), but women write fantasy far more than men do. On top of it, most big fantasy writers, like Robert Jordan, got their start writing romance. Even if you ignore modern fantasy fiction, the classic "fantasy" of the middle ages was called Romance for a reason, and even pulp writer like Howard and Leiber brought love and sex into their stories.

I said romantic angst. There's lots of angst in the fantasy market, and there's lots of romance in there, but the two only seem to overlap in certain ways. There's more than enough pining over a lost/unattainable love, but there's little in the way of "can't live with them, can't live without them". This is probably my minority preference here, but I don't find stories that end with True Lovers overcoming external adversity that... well, I'm not going to say they can't be good, or that they can't be angsty, but I just prefer the types where the characters problems are all caused by one or both of them having internal issues that go at cross purposes to romance.

On the subject of what creates romantic angst, I don't think people acting stupid or miscommunicating is necessary at all. Perhaps the people involved simply cannot be together, because of social, racial, otr even geographical boundaries. Perhaps a lover was lost a long time ago and now has ben reincarnated, but has little interest in continuing the relationship (see the current run of Hawkman by Geoff Johns). There are innumerable ways to create romantic tension without resorting to tired movie cliches.

Again, I beg to differ, even though more people will probably agree with your take.

We've all seen our share of fantasy literature, we all know that True Love finds a way. As such, I wouldn't find an elf and an orc whos respective races keep them apart to be that romantically angsty; we all know that in the end, they'll elope and live Happily Ever After. Now an elf and an orc who were each properly indoctrinated, and who balance their "I'm wildly attracted to everything about this person" with deeply conditioned "I'm attracted to a filthy, disgusting orc/elf! What's wrong with me?" have angst, since they can't as easily dump what's holding them back.

And BTW, I find the "lovers who have to overcome outside adversity" far more cliche than people who want two mutually exclusive things, and/or want something impossible. (Well, OK, there's enough "My True Love is dead" out there, but relatively little "My True Love decided that she doesn't feel the same way about me and wants to see other people". Granted, a dead lover is a more significant plot-piece, but angst is a generally adolecent thing, and the latter is definately more angst producing, simply because you have more repeated reminders and fewer excuses.)


jgbrowning- Some people happen to like angst from a distance. I guess for the same reason that people like movies or other things that make them squeamish or otherwise discomforted. It can be quite interesting from an artistic point of view. Besides, WWGS has become rather successful at putting out games with a heavy angst content, so at least in that we know there's a market.
 

Oh Goody! Romantic Angst!

There's lots of angles to take on this one.

Lets see:

Romantic Interest (RI) is a target or potential target for the PC's enemies. He either has to rescue her, push her away so that she is not in danger (ala Vanyal in the Heralds of Valdimar series) or maybe even she died as a result of it (Big time Angst with that last variation). Think the Green Goblin holding Mary Jane over the bridge and offering Spiderman the choice: Save your girlfriend or save the trolley full of innocent kids.

The Tanis - God-I-hate-myself-so-how-can-you-really-love-me plot. Go back and re-read Dragonlance. Lack of wealth, lost an arm, thinks she is too good to love a rough, uncultured fighter like me. Anything that has one character pushing away the RI because they are not good enough for some reason.

The Buddy plot: She was engaged to my best friend and I loved her in silence because of it and now that he is gone, I can't admit to my love because I feel guilty about his death. Kinda like Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon

Maybe the love is unrequited. Maybe they are the same gender but one of them is heterosexual. One of them could have a vow of celibacy,

Maybe one is in authority over the other (a teacher, commander, whatever) and therefore it would be inappropriate or dishonorable to give in to their attraction.

Maybe the PC had a love that died or ended badly and is gunshy about getting into a new relationship.

There are lots of possibilities.
 

Re: Re: Romantic Angst and D&D

as for your situation, i'd ask your wife WHY she wants angst in her game. pin her down by a successive series of whys until you get to the root core of why she wants angst.
Indeed, interrogating your wife should lead to plenty of romantic angst.
 

This is an interesting topic to me. Especially since I've recently been running a solo campaign for my wife. Although she likes romantic movies as much as the next woman, she hasn't pressured me to put more of it into the game (and so far there really hasn't been any romance involved in this campaign). Although I try not to be heavy handed with the romance if that isn't what the players want, they sometimes create it for themselves (even when it isn't a focus for the player or the character).

I'll cite three examples from recent campaigns I've run:

1) The party is to travel to meet with leaders from several barbarian tribes about uniting forces to face an onrushing orcish army. While at the negotiations, the party Druid has a torrid fling with a female Shaman from one of the tribes. After a couple of months of conducting guerilla attacks on the orcs to slow their advance, the party returns to the barbarian tribes for the final defense of the collected tribes. That's when the Druid finds out that not only is the Shaman pregnant, she has been taken as a wife by her tribe's chieftain. Now the Druid has a lot more riding on the coming battle than he did before. What if the child is his? Should he try to keep the Shaman from participating in the battle since she could get killed? Should he encourage her husband to be on the front lines so that he might get killed and be out of the way of their romance? What if the husband is mortally wounded and the Druid is the only one with the magic to heal him? Tough questions abound.

2) The same party goes on to further adventures. When the party Rogue/Sorcerer (a human) is killed by Kobolds, the Druid reincarnates him and he comes back as an Elf. They return to their home town where the Rogue/Sor has a girlfriend. But he is afraid to let her see him like he is. Will she reject him because he is physically different from the man she loved? Will he be rejected by the local Elves because his is not really one of them (culturally)? What will his parents say?

3) Different campaign. One player is running an assassin who works for a crime family. He is given the assignment of killing the son of one of the boss of another crime family. The son has a girlfriend who is a high class prostitute. The assassin visits the brothel where she works and manages (while employing her "services") to milk some information about where she and the mob boss's son live. He sneaks in with the intention of killing both of them (him as the target and her as a witness). But while he is waiting for them to arrive, he finds her diary and discovers that she has been forced into her lifestyle by the son of the mob boss. She arrives back at the appartment first, but the assassin cannot bring himself to kill her. Instead, against all reason, he tells her to get out of town and never come back. He risked her informing on him for the sake of preserving the one tender spot left on his otherwise calloused heart.
 

jgbrowning said:
I never use angst in my games because at the root of it, all angst is..... is feeling bad.

i dont wany my players, myself or anyone to feel bad. I think people get enough of it in RL.


I'm with you...which is why I had to ask for help from all of you. I game for the adventure, the action, the intrigue and to have a good time. I'm prone to think of angst as uncomfortable, sad and generally not fun by definition. My wife on the other hand is basically saying that it's indeed an element of fantasy fiction, and the one element I tend not to include. When i do include it, she believes I resolve it to quickly and easily. She is quite right on all counts.

Thanks to this thread, I've been able to add some elements that are working well. In a day or so I'll let you all know what has happened in the campaign. Thing is, my wife reads this board and I'm trying to avoid spoilers. :p

NewLifeForm
Where No One Has Gone Before...
 
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Romantic angst, eh?

Well, you could always go with the stereotypical "Elf falls in love with human, but human will grow old and die while the elf remains young." ^_^
 

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