Lonely Tylenol
First Post
The difference between rape, torture, and murder is that while it is extremely unlikely that your players have been tortured, and obviously haven't been murdered, there's a pretty good chance that a female player has been raped, or that any player's girlfriend, sister, mother, wife, or daughter has been. It hits too close to home. People are fairly desensitized to violence, because it's usually not a personal experience for them. It happens on TV, or to some people somewhere. Rape is personal, it's experienced as personal, and it affects individuals.
The other thing to remember is that there's a difference between rape happening to an NPC, perhaps someone for whom the PCs are attempting to seek revenge, or as part of a backstory, and rape happening to a PC. The distinction between a player and character is fuzzy. We almost always use the first person when describing our characters. Things that happen to our characters happen to us, vicariously. This is why we roleplay. We want to be larger-than-life, and these games allow it. Fantasy roleplaying implies a certain level of immersion. When something like rape happens, it happens vicariously just as much as when heroism happens. If you're sensitive to the issue, and many people are, it is liable to push some buttons that really shouldn't be pushed, especially in front of an audience. You sort of have to wonder why a DM would include something like that in a fantasy scenario.
The other thing to remember is that there's a difference between rape happening to an NPC, perhaps someone for whom the PCs are attempting to seek revenge, or as part of a backstory, and rape happening to a PC. The distinction between a player and character is fuzzy. We almost always use the first person when describing our characters. Things that happen to our characters happen to us, vicariously. This is why we roleplay. We want to be larger-than-life, and these games allow it. Fantasy roleplaying implies a certain level of immersion. When something like rape happens, it happens vicariously just as much as when heroism happens. If you're sensitive to the issue, and many people are, it is liable to push some buttons that really shouldn't be pushed, especially in front of an audience. You sort of have to wonder why a DM would include something like that in a fantasy scenario.