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... and this better not be some kind of asinine metaphor about companies releasing new editions....
Unfortunately, that is almost definitely what it is.
... and this better not be some kind of asinine metaphor about companies releasing new editions....
Unfortunately, that is almost definitely what it is.
Nope, it is not a metaphor, it's what I did yesterday. I'm not sure why one would think it's a metaphor, but in case you are thinking that, it is NO metaphor. I'm not that elegant of starting a topic in that method...at least not this weekend.
Some very strong emotions in this thread, a lot of which I empathise with.
But might it be time to shut this one down?
Last year, my father became so ill that he stopped eating and taking care of himself. I did what I could to help him, but he just refused to eat and dwindled away. I had to pump formula through his feeding tube, change his diapers, clean him up, and leave my job to care for him 24/7. He passed in late October of last year, with me at his bedside holding his hand while he passed. The whole experience was incredibly stressful and emotionally wracking, especially as his mental faculties left him, and he became irrational and abusive. It's only the strong bond I had with my father, and his example of giving of himself to do for others, that kept me from throwing up my hands and crying "no more, I'm done." I can't imagine I'd have been as inclined to look after him if his example for me had been one of selfishness.
Now, we got over it pretty quickly in one sense. Kids are resilient. He earned a lot and was never tight-fisted about cash, and he kept getting us new computers, new games, new RPGs. But you know what? Because he did this without asking, without warning, without discussing, without even an ultimatum ("This is going to happen!"), he permanently destroyed trust with us.
I'll agree the question should be "who owns the books?" because gift or not is irrelevant, as they belong to the son. However, if the OP bought them for his own use, they wouldn't actually be his son's property.
I’m on your side, and think this is a pretty dick move. I’m actually just probing to see if this constitutes legal theft. Gifts to minors are much harder to prove. But if the son is the legal buyer with a paper trail to prove it?
Yeah.
Not that calling the cops on your father over some books is a good long term idea.
Yeah, not to mention that would put everything on a better foot. "OH I had no idea Dad was so bored of 4E, maybe we can have fun in this other game too!" There's a pretty solid reason that any time someone comes here with DMing problems the nigh-universal answer is "Talk to your players." But it's fairly common in some parenting circles to promote the idea that children shouldn't be allowed a voice in the household, and if you apply this to DMing well...Yeah... this isn't about gaming anymore, it's about *parenting*, something that is waaaaaay more important. Now parenting is hard. We do the best we can, and sometimes we screw up.
And this is quite the screw up, done for seemingly selfish reasons.
I really, really, hope that this is either a bad joke, or you are *thinking* about doing this and asking around to see if it's a good idea. If you haven't done this yet, *don't do it*. There are better approaches than this.
For example "Son, I know you like 4e, but quite frankly we're getting a bit tired of it. Isn't it time to try something new? Tell you what - I'll buy you a bunch of 5e books, and in exchange we switch to that system for the next 6 months. Sounds fair?"