overgeeked
Open-World Sandbox
That's the difference between how stoicism is used in mainstream culture vs Stoicism the ancient Greek philosophy of life.I -love- that you brought these three forward. And you're right. Or, at least, mostly right.
I would say that there are plenty of actual Stoics at the table outside of the ones who don't react/roleplay. That's less a matter of character philosophy and more a matter of their own viewing of the game as just a math exercise... Which lends itself to Murderhoboery as well.
But there are absolutely players who will -refuse- to have their character emote, even while they, themselves, gesture wildly and lament loudly their poor dice rolls not out of any form of disdain for RP. But because they're trying to roleplay "Action Hero Man"
Gritty "Action Hero Man" is a Man's Man who don't take no guff! He never cries! His only emotions are banging chicks and killin' bad dudes. Often back to back!
This is the player trying to emulate their favorite monosyllabic movie character being the absolute unstoppable badass that they don't get to be in life.
Mainstream culture sees and uses stoicism to mean the taciturn, non-emotive tough guy stereotype that patriarchal society pushes on men. But that's a far cry from philosophical Stoicism. The mainstream is a watered down caricature of the philosophy. The philosophy is about virtue, reason, the dichotomy of control (knowing the difference between what you can control and what you cannot), and coming to terms with the ramifications of those, i.e. letting go of trying to control things that are beyond your control. Stoicism the philosophy isn't about not expressing emotions, it's (at least in part) about not letting emotions control you. It may be too subtle of a distinction for some, but it's a distinction that makes a difference.
To quote Massimo Pigliucci, a modern stoic philosopher, as he describes Stoic philosophy: "Briefly, their notion of morality is stern, involving a life in accordance with nature and controlled by virtue. It is an ascetic system, teaching perfect indifference (apathea) to everything external, for nothing external could be either good or evil. Hence to the Stoics both pain and pleasure, poverty and riches, sickness and health, were supposed to be equally unimportant."