Uncommon Preferences & Finding Your Group

[Wendell_Burke]

Having some trouble finding the right gaming group seems to be a common problem for many gamers, but I’ve heard many say that before long, they had found a good group for what they were looking for. I take this to be the norm, average, etc.

This isn’t what I’m asking about.

What I am interested in are those who tend to have (or feel they have) unusually uncommon tastes, preferences, boundaries, requirements, etc., to the extent that it has been exceedingly difficult for you to find other like-minded gamers to form groups with.

I would be very interested to hear your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, experiences, etc., regarding this.

 

[aramis erak]

My biggest problem is a group that all members can put up with each the other long term. Every time a group has imploded, it's been over someone acting out and pissing off the majority of the group. Sometimes the group survives without the problem. Sometimes they don't.

 

[jdrakeh]

I'm part of a group of guys who get together for about two months out of the year for a short campaign (work schedules make meeting more often impossible), and we play all kinds of weird (non-mainstream) stuff. They even played Nazi-Killing Bear Simulator! But everybody else that I know? Yeah, they only want to play vanilla D&D 5e or, once a year or so, a World of Darkness game.

 

[aco175]

I'm guessing there are boundaries, but I do not think they would be unusual. Mostly things you would expect if invited over someone's house, such as not kicking the dog or swearing in front of the little kids.

Something gaming specific might be if the DM has a relationship with a player and now favors that PC or if one player always wants to be the one who sneaks off in the night to spend an hour of game time on a side mission that has nothing to do with the adventure. This is both a DM and player problem if the DM lets it happen more than once and for more than 5 minutes.

My father now needs to sit next to the DM when we go to conventions so he can hear with his hearing aids otherwise the background noise makes him hear only half of what is going on.