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prabe

Aspiring Lurker (He/Him)
Supporter
Same. I didn't see anything offensive in @iserith 's examples, as a player or as a DM.

@iserith and I have talked about this before, and I think they have a specific preference for not telling characters what they think (with an exception for things like mind-control, IIRC). The boundaries are perhaps a little unclear, looking from outside, but it seems pretty consistent to me.

Personally, I'm reluctant to narrate actions (the to-hit) but more willing to narrate results (the kill), and I'd probably want to roll the Wisdom (Insight) roll myself or ask for a passive value and roll for the NPC myself (latter seems preferable as I'm writing this), and narrate the result, being willing to make the result explicit if the players around the table didn't seem to be getting to the correct conclusion (where "correct" means "consistent with the dice result).
 

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Panda-s1

Scruffy and Determined
I was beginning to think it was only me. There's a crazy amount of this happening out there from what I can tell.
Can you give an example of what you're referring to? I want to make sure I'm not doing it.
This took me by surprise. Is this really something players dislike? What about it is objectionable, exactly?
one time in a post-apocalyptic campaign in Seattle (I forget which game we were playing) we arrived at the Space Needle where there was a small settlement and basically some rando came and welcomed us in. I thought he was weird so I tried to get a read on this guy and rolled poorly. the GM said "you think this guy is the leader of this place lol" and kept trying to interpret everything I did as if my character thought that. when I objected all I got was "he's the GM and what he says is right".

if he had said something like "you get the impression this guy runs this place" then that's different. that's information I can interpret as I imagine my character would. if my character has low wisdom or is just gullible then sure, yeah, they totally believe this weirdo gets to call the shots around here. but if my character is a lot more skeptical he might follow him around cautiously, looking for anyone who might actually have authority over him.
I totally disagree as both a player and DM. There's nothing worse than pixle bitching play, and a DM trying to get you, the player, to read their mind is the worst kind. If I am DM and I tell you that you think the orc is lying, it's because I want you to be clear about the result of your roll. I'm not taking your agency, I am enabling it by giving you the information you need to act.
I don't think that's pixel bitching? I'm not sure why you can't just say "he sounds like he's hiding something" or "he seems deceitful". if it's information the player needs to act then you as the GM can just say "the orc is lying" without the player needing to roll anything.
Similarly,flourishes of description is both part of the DM's job and part of his fun. Players tell the DM what they want to attempt and then perhaps roll some dice, then the DM tells the player what happens. That's the game.
man, the DM has an entire campaign full of characters they can describe in full paragraphs if they wanted to. I only get one character, you can at least let me describe what my own actions are like, thanks.
 

iserith

Magic Wordsmith
I totally disagree as both a player and DM. There's nothing worse than pixle bitching play, and a DM trying to get you, the player, to read their mind is the worst kind.

I think you have an awful lot of work to do to show that this is something for which I advocate or that the DM avoiding describing what the character thinks, does, or says must result in "pixel bitching play."

That's a good description of what you have a problem with. I don't think you'd have a problem with narrating a kill or maybe a crit (I find those are worth narrating, and I find I'm quicker to do it than most players are, YMMV). Social skills are .. notably problematic, especially trying to Detect Honesty.

I narrate, as that's the DM's role. I just do it without saying what the character does. Saying what the character does is the player's role. I don't think the DM should be doing what the players are supposed to be doing.

This took me by surprise. Is this really something players dislike? What about it is objectionable, exactly?

Same. I didn't see anything offensive in @iserith 's examples, as a player or as a DM.

I think a lot of players are just used to it now. I play in and observe a lot of games and it's quite ubiquitous in my experience. But not at my table. Players describe what they want to do and they are the ones who say what the character does, think, and says. Not the DM. If a DM told me what my character does, thinks, or says, we're going to have to stop and have a discussion about that.
 

Reynard

Legend
one time in a post-apocalyptic campaign in Seattle (I forget which game we were playing) we arrived at the Space Needle where there was a small settlement and basically some rando came and welcomed us in. I thought he was weird so I tried to get a read on this guy and rolled poorly. the GM said "you think this guy is the leader of this place lol" and kept trying to interpret everything I did as if my character thought that. when I objected all I got was "he's the GM and what he says is right".

if he had said something like "you get the impression this guy runs this place" then that's different. that's information I can interpret as I imagine my character would. if my character has low wisdom or is just gullible then sure, yeah, they totally believe this weirdo gets to call the shots around here. but if my character is a lot more skeptical he might follow him around cautiously, looking for anyone who might actually have authority over him.

I don't think that's pixel bitching? I'm not sure why you can't just say "he sounds like he's hiding something" or "he seems deceitful". if it's information the player needs to act then you as the GM can just say "the orc is lying" without the player needing to roll anything.

man, the DM has an entire campaign full of characters they can describe in full paragraphs if they wanted to. I only get one character, you can at least let me describe what my own actions are like, thanks.
I'm not sure what you mean. The players says what their character does and the GM says what happens as a result. Often there's back and forth and maybe die rolls in there.

The player doesn't say "I stab the orc in the neck!" The player says "I attack the orc using my patented Neck Stabbing Technique" then rolls to hit and applies damage. Then the GM says what happens, neck stabbing or otherwise.
 

Panda-s1

Scruffy and Determined
I'm not sure what you mean. The players says what their character does and the GM says what happens as a result. Often there's back and forth and maybe die rolls in there.

The player doesn't say "I stab the orc in the neck!" The player says "I attack the orc using my patented Neck Stabbing Technique" then rolls to hit and applies damage. Then the GM says what happens, neck stabbing or otherwise.
OR the player rolls and hits and says "I stab the orc in the neck! blood gushes everywhere!" and the DM says "hell yeah!"
 




slobster

Hero
This took me by surprise. Is this really something players dislike? What about it is objectionable, exactly?
Same. I didn't see anything offensive in @iserith 's examples, as a player or as a DM.
Yeah those quotes are a decent representation of how I typically GM, too. I mean I might say "he looks like he's lying" and not "he's lying" or "you think he's lying", which I think is the heart of the complaint. Some players don't want the GM telling them how their character is thinking or feeling, they feel like that is their sole decision to make.

But I also think that typically when GMs say "you think the bridge won't hold the weight of your whole party", they don't mean "I am telling you your character's opinions and you cannot decide to hold a different one", they are using natural English to mean "from what your character can observe, and what their capable of deducing, the bridge probably won't hold the weight". So it becomes a quibble about grammar primarily, and less of an actual issue in playstyle.
 

iserith

Magic Wordsmith
Yeah those quotes are a decent representation of how I typically GM, too. I mean I might say "he looks like he's lying" and not "he's lying" or "you think he's lying", which I think is the heart of the complaint. Some players don't want the GM telling them how their character is thinking or feeling, they feel like that is their sole decision to make.

But I also think that typically when GMs say "you think the bridge won't hold the weight of your whole party", they don't mean "I am telling you your character's opinions and you cannot decide to hold a different one", they are using natural English to mean "from what your character can observe, and what their capable of deducing, the bridge probably won't hold the weight". So it becomes a quibble about grammar primarily, and less of an actual issue in playstyle.

In some cases that may be true. In other cases no so much. It can be a clever little trick for the DM to frame things in terms of "you think" and "you believe" so as to set up a situation where there is an expectation that what follows from the player will be in line with what was just established in this regard or else is just looks weird. Players that don't want to look weird in front of others will go along with it. I see this a lot in games I play in and observe, particularly among DMs who have a plot they need the PCs to stay on.

Whether shorthand or a DM trick, this is best avoided altogether in my view by letting players determine what their characters think, say, and do. There's also rules support for exactly that, so I see no downside.
 

CleverNickName

Limit Break Dancing
I think I understand. The player doesn't want to hear that there is still a lack of clarity or certainty after their skill check, because then it feels like the check didn't really happen and their actions didn't matter.

"I rolled Stealth; now tell me if I'm hidden or not. I rolled Insight, now tell me if the merchant is lying or not. I rolled Investigation, now me if the door is trapped or not. Whadda ya mean I still don't know? I rolled for it and everything...what else do you want from me?"

I don't know how to work around that. The best I've got is to narrate it as carefully as I can, and use ambiguity and uncertainty to build tension. So for an Insight check, I'm far more likely to say "The merchant doesn't seem nervous or shifty, but you can't shake the feeling that maybe he's hiding something" than I am to just flatly say "He's lying."
 

slobster

Hero
In some cases that may be true. In other cases no so much. It can be a clever little trick for the DM to frame things in terms of "you think" and "you believe" so as to set up a situation where there is an expectation that what follows from the player will be in line with what was just established in this regard or else is just looks weird. Players that don't want to look weird in front of others will go along with it. I see this a lot in games I play in and observe, particularly among DMs who have a plot they need the PCs to stay on.

Whether shorthand or a DM trick, this is best avoided altogether in my view by letting players determine what their characters think, say, and do. There's also rules support for exactly that, so I see no downside.
Lots of things to unpack here, but I won't get super into each one in the interest of respecting the thread topic. But briefly:

In terms of DMs who want to keep the PCs on rails, the real issue here is the railroad, IMO. Now I'm not actually against railroads per se, I think as long as the GM and players all know the score and are on board with the idea of a plot that's on rails, it can be okay. But a GM who tells players "you decide to trust Baron McObviousEvil" and compels them to walk into a clear trap is sinning because he's ignoring player choice far more egregiously than an occasional flavor embellishment which assumes that your character thinks flowers smell nice, or wtv. I think the two things are so different that you should consider them different issues.

As to sneaky GMs, well, we're a sneaky lot. I subtly use GM tricks to try and set up surprises for my players and play off of their likely assumptions all the time. I do see how it can be more annoying for a GM to tell you what your character thinks, then betray that stated opinion with a SHOCKING TWIST!, than it would be for that GM to just describe a situation, let you come up with your own idea, and then pull the rug out from under you with that same SHOCKING TWIST!

So I feel where you are coming from, but I also think that most GMs who use the "you feel like the sword is heavier than it should be" rather than "the sword is about 1.4 times as dense as steel usually is" are usually just falling back on more natural language, and that no harm is meant by it.
 

iserith

Magic Wordsmith
I think I understand. The player doesn't want to hear that there is still a lack of clarity or certainty after their skill check, because then it feels like the check didn't really happen and their actions didn't matter.

"I rolled Stealth; now tell me if I'm hidden or not. I rolled Insight, now tell me if the merchant is lying or not. I rolled Investigation, now me if the door is trapped or not. Whadda ya mean I still don't know? I rolled for it and everything...what else do you want from me?"

I don't know how to work around that. The best I've got is to narrate it as carefully as I can, and use ambiguity and uncertainty to build tension. So for an Insight check, I'm far more likely to say "The merchant doesn't seem nervous or shifty, but you can't shake the feeling that maybe he's hiding something" than I am to just flatly say "He's lying."

I'm of the position that ability checks resolve uncertainty - they don't continue uncertainty or create it. I've no problem with saying directly that, for example, the NPC's mannerisms indicate he's not being truthful. I have no reason or incentive to hide or otherwise obfuscate that fact, given I already established the stakes of the roll after the player described what he or she wants to do. What's important now is what the PC does in the face of this new information.
 

Honestly rolling at all for anything the PC knows or not is an issue I just avoid all together.
If a player doesn't trust a NPC the results of on insight check won't really change that.
 

Panda-s1

Scruffy and Determined
Honestly rolling at all for anything the PC knows or not is an issue I just avoid all together.
If a player doesn't trust a NPC the results of on insight check won't really change that.
man that seems a little cynical, as a player I'm willing to let my character do all sorts of dumb naughty word I would never do irl. like said if my character is gullible and the DM says the NPC seems trustworthy on a bad roll I'll totally let them go along with the NPC (barring anything obvious).
 

iserith

Magic Wordsmith
Lots of things to unpack here, but I won't get super into each one in the interest of respecting the thread topic. But briefly:

In terms of DMs who want to keep the PCs on rails, the real issue here is the railroad, IMO. Now I'm not actually against railroads per se, I think as long as the GM and players all know the score and are on board with the idea of a plot that's on rails, it can be okay. But a GM who tells players "you decide to trust Baron McObviousEvil" and compels them to walk into a clear trap is sinning because he's ignoring player choice far more egregiously than an occasional flavor embellishment which assumes that your character thinks flowers smell nice, or wtv. I think the two things are so different that you should consider them different issues.

I don't have to because unless I have made a mistake I will not say what a character does, thinks, or says. That's not my role as DM, shorthand or otherwise.

So I feel where you are coming from, but I also think that most GMs who use the "you feel like the sword is heavier than it should be" rather than "the sword is about 1.4 times as dense as steel usually is" are usually just falling back on more natural language, and that no harm is meant by it.

As I said above, in some cases that may be true. In other cases no so much. I don't think we have enough data to say whether your assertion about "most GMs" is true. I'd like to believe that's true, but I observe and play in a lot of games across a relatively large population of DMs and telling players what their characters do, say, and think is awfully common.

In the end, whether harm is meant by it or not changes little in my view. No harm can occur if the DM simply avoids doing it at all and that's the most effective approach in my experience.
 

univoxs

That's my dog, Walter
Supporter
Those ones mentioned are good. Charisma is important, the ability to get people listening to you and interested in what you are saying. Empathy is good. When you are being empathetic then you are feeling the fun that your players are having. I would say Empathy might be the most important thing because the truth is, its a hobby and hobbies are supposed to be fun and if your players are not having fun then they wont play and then YOU don't get to play so now no one is having fun.
 

Prakriti

Hi, I'm a Mindflayer, but don't let that worry you
I'm of the position that ability checks resolve uncertainty - they don't continue uncertainty or create it.
Really? In my games, ability checks only have a chance to resolve uncertainty. For example, if a player makes a Medicine check to determine what disease an NPC is suffering from, there is a chance that they recognize the symptoms as a particular disease. But if they roll too low, then they might learn nothing; the disease and its symptoms are outside the scope of their knowledge. Is that not how you would rule it?
 

Oofta

Legend
Honestly rolling at all for anything the PC knows or not is an issue I just avoid all together.
If a player doesn't trust a NPC the results of on insight check won't really change that.

As much as I like to think differently, I am not a professional actor. My players may or may not be as good as their PCs at picking up on deception.

Whether or not a player decides their PC trusts someone is up to the player, determining the true intentions of a creature is the definition of an insight check.
 

iserith

Magic Wordsmith
Really? In my games, ability checks only have a chance to resolve uncertainty. For example, if a player makes a Medicine check to determine what disease an NPC is suffering from, there is a chance that they recognize the symptoms as a particular disease. But if they roll too low, then they might learn nothing; the disease and its symptoms are outside the scope of their knowledge. Is that not how you would rule it?

I might not have been very clear there. What I mean to say is that if you succeed on a check, I'm not going to beat around the bush. You engaged in a task with an uncertain outcome and a meaningful consequence for failure. If you succeed on the check, I'm not going to rob you of what you just earned by not being direct about the result.

As for your example, context would tell, but it's unlikely I would ever say "The disease is unidentifiable..." on a failed roll. It's more likely that you figure it out, but now you've been exposed to it (assuming that makes sense in context), what the PHB calls "progress combined with a setback." That is a meaningful consequence for failure.
 

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