What would you do... (warning, touchy subject) - Updated

[Torm]

IMO, what says the most about my friend in this is that he will not speak poorly of his ex-wife in front of his daughter.

This is wisdom. When my parents split, it made me feel like I was under attack when my father spoke badly about my mom - after all, I was one part of each, right? So if he hated her, how could he not hate me? Made it take longer for me to realize for myself how truly screwed up she was and how dangerous to be around, and caused unnecessary hard feelings between my dad and I.

 

[DaveStebbins]

Either someone is trying to be funny, or someone missed the wisdom of the "third parties shouldn't get involved" stuff.

Umm, yeah, that's why I placed it after I signed off instead of in the body of the message along with the (hopefully) useful information. If the attempt at humor wasn't obvious, then it was a poor one and I apologize.

-Dave

 

[Darth K'Trava]

This is wisdom. When my parents split, it made me feel like I was under attack when my father spoke badly about my mom - after all, I was one part of each, right? So if he hated her, how could he not hate me? Made it take longer for me to realize for myself how truly screwed up she was and how dangerous to be around, and caused unnecessary hard feelings between my dad and I.

At least it's better than a friend (and you know which one... as you're jealous of him.... ) who has parents who could care less about him. Or if he has friends... Especially his "mother" who didn't care one time that he got a ride thru the VA to the doc's one time. Or could care less that he has any fun. Or consoled his ex gf when his grandmother passed away instead of consoling HIM. Or calling him a liar when he tried to tell her that the ex gf liked to steal stuff and then the only "apology" he got was "I guess we owe you an apology..." and walked off, leaving him to go "WTF?".

And one wonders why I don't give a rat's *** about them.....

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Either someone is trying to be funny, or someone missed the wisdom of the "third parties shouldn't get involved" stuff.

I don't think Dave was joking.

Facetious maybe, but not joking.

 

[Ralts Bloodthorne]

Hire a couple crackheads to beat the ex half to death.

Tie the new wife to a rocketsled and shoot her down a tobaggan run.

Run off with the friend and live happily ever after.

What, this isn't a Wiley Coyote episode? Oh. In that case, mind your own business until someone is in grave danger. You're doing good so far, and providing support where it is needed.

Luck.

 

[Greatwyrm]

Goverenment agencies suck, but keep going to the police. As others have suggested, try social workers and/or doctors as well. It's good that you want to help, but you won't be doing anybody any good sitting in a 8x10 box for assault and battery. Sooner or later your friend will have enough evidence to go back to family court and get this scumbag out of her daughter's life.