What's wrong with me?

[MavrickWeirdo]

Back before Enword crashed, I had a thread entitled "My wife is moving out".

It has now been 2 months since she moved out, and she says that she is definately not coming back.

So should I take the hint? Should I keep looking for a way to make it work? Should I admit I failed? How do you know when to "cut bait"?

By the way, did I mention that this Thursday is (or would have been) our 5th wedding aniversary?

 

[EricNoah]

Wow, tough stuff, man. I don't have any advice to give. My guess (and it's only a guess) is that some part of you already knows the answer to this question.

 

[Treebore]

Yep, when she says move on it means move on. Don't worry, in a few months or years you will be glad you did. You learn and grow from such experiences, if you don't let it beat you down, that is. So when you've learned and grown from the pain of all of this you'll handle life and future relationships that much better. Its painful now, but you'll ge past it, and it will be better.

Just conventrate on being there for your kids as much as your able, and figure out how to put your life back together, for you. So your happy. You being happy will help make those around you happy.

 

[the Jester]

Hey, man, I sympathize! My girlfriend of several years (off and on) and I just broke up a few weeks ago... suxx. My advice in general is to keep yourself busy; as regards the relationship, is to let it go unless she shows interest in reviving things; as regards other relationships, is to take your time and not let anyone pressure you into moving into something new faster than you're comfortable with.

*internet hug* Hope you're comfortable with a little electric man-squeeze, mang.

 

[MavrickWeirdo]

Yep, when she says move on it means move on. Don't worry, in a few months or years you will be glad you did. You learn and grow from such experiences, if you don't let it beat you down, that is. So when you've learned and grown from the pain of all of this you'll handle life and future relationships that much better. Its painful now, but you'll ge past it, and it will be better.

Just conventrate on being there for your kids as much as your able, and figure out how to put your life back together, for you. So your happy. You being happy will help make those around you happy.

I don't have kids (you may be mixing me up with megamania) it was a rough spring in the north-east

 

[GeorgeFields]

I've been there. In fact, I'm kind of there now.

The only real advice I can give is this. Let her go. She's gone, but you are still you.

Here's a thread I started on the Kenzer boards about my recent situation.
http://www.kenzerco.com/forums/showthread.php?t=22291

Know that you have lived without her before, and you can do it again.

Hail & Peace

 

[MavrickWeirdo]

Hey, man, I sympathize! My girlfriend of several years (off and on) and I just broke up a few weeks ago... suxx. My advice in general is to keep yourself busy; as regards the relationship, is to let it go unless she shows interest in reviving things; as regards other relationships, is to take your time and not let anyone pressure you into moving into something new faster than you're comfortable with.

*internet hug* Hope you're comfortable with a little electric man-squeeze, mang.

I appreciate the hug, but I'm still not giving you the beer.

The person I have to convince not to "move into something new fast" is me. I am not a big fan of living alone. The conversation seems to be between the "lonely" side of me vs. the "loyal" side. (and now that you ask, no I don't have a "common sense" side, which is one of the reasons my wife moved out.)

 

[MavrickWeirdo]

I've been there. In fact, I'm kind of there now.

The only real advice I can give is this. Let her go. She's gone, but you are still you.

Here's a thread I started on the Kenzer boards about my recent situation.
http://www.kenzerco.com/forums/showthread.php?t=22291

Know that you have lived without her before, and you can do it again.

Hail & Peace

I read some of that thread. Can I be you when I grow up?
I thought I had been doing relatively well, and that tonight was just a rough patch. You are much more at peace than I. Thank you for posting.

 

[megamania]

Considering everything I have and am continueing to go through I can't really say much. hang in there.

As one person said- stay busy. If able to, travel, get out and do things. Keep your mind off of things. It'll pan out.

There is someone out there for you I'm sure of it.

I remember my first girlfriend. When we broke up she gave me some odd advice that I now understand.

"There are other fish in the ocean. One must first go there to fish."

Makes sense now. (didn't in 10th grade.)

 

[the Jester]

If you can afford it, Burning Man might be a good cathasis.

If you think a lot of really amazingly weird art will help. And really mind-blowingly cool, weird people. Hell, maybe a fight of two in the Thunderdome would make you feel better.