When players clash

[Insight]

Here are some things I would do immediately based on experience:

1. Add another player. Nothing says 'see ya' like being replaced. You can choose whether to tell him or not. Personally, I would tell him, "We're adding another player since you seem to be too busy to play."

2. His PC is gone. Not dead, but reasonably away from wherever the rest of the PCs have gone in the campaign. That way, if he wants to come back, he can, but the rest of the PCs don't need to worry about making arrangements for his PC. Out of sight, out of mind, as they say.

3. If he does want to come back and can commit to playing on a regular basis, fine. But I would caution him about the bad blood amongst the group (not necessarily naming names per se, be generic). He needs to be contrite and diplomatic, and actually show up when he says he will. Otherwise, you don't need him.

 

[tilienh]

I Agree

sounds like an to me. I vote boot him out ASAP with a nice Greeting Card

 

[Kashell]

If he is really that close of a friend to you, you need to invite him to other activities. Play Halo 2. Play Quake Arena. Stop the D&D.

Once he's come out of D&D mode, you can sit him down and talk to him about some of the rules. Make sure he knows you just want him to have fun with the rest of the group, and that, the be blunt, his knowledge of the rules isn't so great.

If all else fails, 86 him.

 

[Dareoon Dalandrove]

Your not the same person you where 4 years ago and neither are the other people in your group. It's obvious that you've grown apart. My advice is to stop inviting him, be open minded if he asks you to get in on a game but don't invite him in. Maybe your friendship outside of the game will heal, after all your friends for some reason. He's just not a someone to trust when you've got a dragon to slay

Edit: Oh and if you need more players advertise her on en world. I was looking to get in on a new group and found myself 10 new people!

 

[Ed Cha]

It doesn't sound like this guy really wants to play any more. That doesn't mean you can't be friends with him. Why not talk it out?

 

[Harmon]

It doesn't sound like this guy really wants to play any more. That doesn't mean you can't be friends with him. Why not talk it out?

I agree- give him the chance to make things better.

If he refuses, if he makes no effort, then brush him off, I am not saying burn the relationship, just let him know he's not gonna be a player at your table anymore.

Like I implied, or said before- I hope it works out for you, good friends are hard to find.

 

[BlackSilver]

Patience is a virtue that so many in the modern generations seem to lack.

Aerodm seems to have given his friend and Player quite a bit of leeway, the other Players and associates of this guy seem to have been very patient and understanding towards him as well.

Let him know how you feel. He should be told what the group thinks and generally be as kind as you can but firm, remember that he is a friend that you want to maintain that relationship in the end and make sure he understands and knows that.

If he has an explosive reaction to the information then allow some time for him to “get it together,” before giving him the option of returning to the group.

If he was not a friend I would say otherwise, but you have placed posts here to deal with the problem, asking people for help because you have an emotional investment into the relationship.

I wish you the best and hope beyond hope that it turns out for the best. Good luck.

 

[jerichothebard]

... and fills a seat at the table. Filling a seat at the table is very important to our group.

But he isn't. If he's not there, he's not at the table, is he?

Here's a general rule I've seen posted around: Don't game with anyone you wouldn't socialize with out of game.

That can frequently be inverted to read: Don't socialize with someone you wouldn't game with.


And it certainly applies in this case. The truth of it is, he is a terrible player and a drain on your resources. Give him the axe and walk away happy.

 

[Dragonblade]

Boot his ass. Or at least stop inviting him to games. If he wants to play, let him make the effort to find out when and where.

I had a similar situation a few years ago. Two of my friends just did not get along with a third guy. Eventually we stopped inviting him to play and since the only time we really hung out with him was when we were gaming, we just never really heard from him again. Problem solved.

 

[Breakdaddy]

Been there. Done that.


Life is too short to play crappy games.

Dont you play (and review) crappy games?

...of course maybe you are immortal and so life really ISNT too short to play games for you.