Why do women send mixed signals?

[KenM]

Ken, how do you feel about this?

Well, to be honest, I have never had a SO ask me something like that. So I can't say how I'd react in that situation. I have just told them how pretty, ect. they were. I can see how that can be a hairy situation thou.
I'm going to look for that book tomorrow. Sounds interesting and I liked other EM stuff.

 

[Timeboxer]

"You look sexy to me, honey."

Unless of course that is a lie, and she will of course know that you are lying but choose to trust and believe you, after which everything comes down like a house of cards. Speaking from personal experience as the girl, here.

It may be important for KenM to distinguish between lies that are trivial and lies that are meaningful, I think.

 

[Nifft]

Why do men send mixed drinks? Same reason: to confuse the enemy.

It's all part of the game.

-- N

 

[Ralts Bloodthorne]

Unless of course that is a lie, and she will of course know that you are lying but choose to trust and believe you, after which everything comes down like a house of cards. Speaking from personal experience as the girl, here.

"You're not a girl! Prove it! Send me naked pictures!"-Private Church (I think) from the Red VS Blue Community Service Message Real Life VS the Internet.

True. Still, as a woman, you should recognise I'm trying to avoid a cratered head wound and respect the fact that your question made me uncomfortable.

Or, realize that I follow the Sir Mixalot school of booty appreciation.

It may be important for KenM to distinguish between lies that are trivial and lies that are meaningful, I think.

I agree there.

He should realize his audience, thier vulnerability at the moment, and what he is about to say. Never say anything to anyone that you could not handle being aimed at yourself.

If she asks "Does this pair of pants make my butt look big." he should answer it along the lines of "Does this pair of pants make me look like a Ken doll?"

Unless you are REALLY used to each other.

Then you can get away with "Oh yeah, baby, do they ever! Say, is that dressing room occupied?"

 

[Turanil]

"well, if she didn't want me to honestly tell her that she is fat, when why did she ask the question?" <...> Most of us guys would realize that it is a loaded question - she wants you to tell her that she doesn't look fat, even if that means you have to lie to her.

Okay, I admit I am hijacking this thread but... In reading parts of that thread, I wanted to know what this Asperger syndrome is, so got some info on Internet, and finally reading this post I thought: The Asperger's Syndrome may qualify very well to portray droids and artificial intelligences in a sci-fi game, rather than assume a droid having a personnality like most humans. Thoughts about this? (Hey I don't try to be insulting toward people afflicted by AS in saying this).

 

[KenM]

Okay, I admit I am hijacking this thread but... In reading parts of that thread, I wanted to know what this Asperger syndrome is, so got some info on Internet, and finally reading this post I thought: The Asperger's Syndrome may qualify very well to portray droids and artificial intelligences in a sci-fi game, rather than assume a droid having a personnality like most humans. Thoughts about this? (Hey I don't try to be insulting toward people afflicted by AS in saying this).

I think thats a very narrow view. I do think people with AS want to have some kind of normal, heatlhy relationships. But we are not that good at it becuase we have trouble reading the little social cues.

 

[mhacdebhandia]

Sounds to me like you're not so bad, Ken. I know a guy who possibly has Asperger's Syndrome, and his most famous habit is butting into a conversation which does not involve him . . . with crude sex jokes that are completely nonsensical.

 

[Turanil]

I think thats a very narrow view. I do think people with AS want to have some kind of normal, heatlhy relationships. But we are not that good at it becuase we have trouble reading the little social cues.

My comment wasn't aimed at people suffering from AS; I clearly understand that suffering from anything can be rightly felt as an unjust curse. Now, I just thought that what limited info I do read about AS could be used to roleplay droids in a sci-fi game. Now, is it derogatory? I hope not, and my opinion is that in the future, Artificial Intelligence will be the next step of evolution. So don't see it as a sort of insult.

 

[KenM]

I did not think it was an insulting view. Now I see what you mean. You just gave me an idea for a story, thanks.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

I do think people with AS want to have some kind of normal, heatlhy relationships.

And that doesn't make you any different than any of the rest of us who don't have AS...

But we are not that good at it becuase we have trouble reading the little social cues.

Which you're not going to pick up without practice, which is only harder with your condition... I may not have AS but I had to struggle to learn to pick up social cues and still screw up alot...(I was shy and introverted) It happens to the best of people too! Maybe going to therapy might help you learn these cues to help make it easier for you in social gatherings. And perhaps you should be up front with telling prospective girls about AS so they can understand where you're coming from. That's better than muddling stuff up due to miscommunication (which happens on both sides, ya know! ) and make conversation easier. It's not meant to scare off anyone. If they get scared off, then move on.