DungeonmasterCal
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glass said:
True... but I'm just going with vast number of "gamer seeking love advice" threads that fall apart and burst into little flaming shards before dying like embers in the rain.
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True... but I'm just going with vast number of "gamer seeking love advice" threads that fall apart and burst into little flaming shards before dying like embers in the rain.
Teflon Billy
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DungeonmasterCal said:
Yup...usually about the time the person who was seeking advice starts describing their worst traits as points of pride
"why can't women just look past the fact that I am fat and don't wash? Why do they have to be so shallow?"
or...
"I think the reason I can't get along with peopl in my day-to-day life is becasue I am so much smarter than the average prole. The whole world is too stupid for me"
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DungeonmasterCal
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Teflon Billy said:Yup...usually about the time the person who was seeking advice starts describing their worst traits as points of pride
Amen, brother. Preach on!
Joshua Randall
Legend
Well, I don't know why anyone would take dating advice from a message board about D&D, but... since you asked... 
I have a radical suggestion for Unknown Soul: why don't you explain everything to Kay? I mean everything -- how you've known her for seven years, how you were dazzled by how she looked in that dress when you picked her up, how you've been carrying a torch for her all this time, even how you got so confused that you sought advice (anonymously) on ENWorld.
Tell her exactly how you feel and what you want to happen. Do you feel some combination of lust and love but are not sure which is which? Tell her that. (Maybe don't use the word 'lust' because of its negative connotations; maybe say, 'I am incredibly strongly attracted to you.') Do you wish you both could give in to the mutual attraction that is bubbling beneath the surface, and have it blossom into blissful romance? Tell her that.
Tell her that you cannot stand living another day with things going on as they have been. Tell her that even though you realize your very act of telling her these things might doom any possible romance, you have to resolve this situation because you are being driven mad by it.
If you don't think you can tell her all this in person (and honestly, I probably couldn't), then write it in a letter (a letter, not an e-mail) and give it to her.
Then, after she has had time to digest what you've said/written, do not allow her to weasel out of a definitive answer. I don't mean to be insulting with the word 'weasel' -- I mean, you have to force her to help you make a decision: either you two become lovers, or you don't. If the former, great, hope it works out. If the latter, dude, that sucks. Have a beer (or six), mope around for a while, and then get on with your life.
Let me close with what may seem like a really stupid analogy, but one that works for me, so... have you seen the movie With Honors? In this movie, Brendan Fraser plays a Harvard student who is friends with another student played by Moira Kelly (details of the plot are irrelevant). However, Brendan would like to be more than friends with Moira.
In one scene, they are at a party, and Moira goes outside for some reason. A minute later, Brendan follows her, walks right up to her, and kisses her passionately. "What are you doing?" she says in surprise.
"Ending our friendship," is his reply.
Unknown Soul, you've got to end the friendship. End. It.
I hope this works out for you -- I really, really do. (I'm as big a romantic as they come.) But one way or the other, you must resolve this situation.
Now go and do what must be done.
I have a radical suggestion for Unknown Soul: why don't you explain everything to Kay? I mean everything -- how you've known her for seven years, how you were dazzled by how she looked in that dress when you picked her up, how you've been carrying a torch for her all this time, even how you got so confused that you sought advice (anonymously) on ENWorld.
Tell her exactly how you feel and what you want to happen. Do you feel some combination of lust and love but are not sure which is which? Tell her that. (Maybe don't use the word 'lust' because of its negative connotations; maybe say, 'I am incredibly strongly attracted to you.') Do you wish you both could give in to the mutual attraction that is bubbling beneath the surface, and have it blossom into blissful romance? Tell her that.
Tell her that you cannot stand living another day with things going on as they have been. Tell her that even though you realize your very act of telling her these things might doom any possible romance, you have to resolve this situation because you are being driven mad by it.
If you don't think you can tell her all this in person (and honestly, I probably couldn't), then write it in a letter (a letter, not an e-mail) and give it to her.
Then, after she has had time to digest what you've said/written, do not allow her to weasel out of a definitive answer. I don't mean to be insulting with the word 'weasel' -- I mean, you have to force her to help you make a decision: either you two become lovers, or you don't. If the former, great, hope it works out. If the latter, dude, that sucks. Have a beer (or six), mope around for a while, and then get on with your life.
Let me close with what may seem like a really stupid analogy, but one that works for me, so... have you seen the movie With Honors? In this movie, Brendan Fraser plays a Harvard student who is friends with another student played by Moira Kelly (details of the plot are irrelevant). However, Brendan would like to be more than friends with Moira.
In one scene, they are at a party, and Moira goes outside for some reason. A minute later, Brendan follows her, walks right up to her, and kisses her passionately. "What are you doing?" she says in surprise.
"Ending our friendship," is his reply.
Unknown Soul, you've got to end the friendship. End. It.
I hope this works out for you -- I really, really do. (I'm as big a romantic as they come.) But one way or the other, you must resolve this situation.
Now go and do what must be done.
DungeonmasterCal
First Post
Joshua Randall said:
Yup...I agree. I'm about to be in the same scenario as Brendan Frasier, too. I'm about to lay down the law on a relationship I've been building for months.
Dark Jezter
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Teflon Billy said:Yup...usually about the time the person who was seeking advice starts describing their worst traits as points of pride
"why can't women just look past the fact that I am fat and don't wash? Why do they have to be so shallow?"
or...
"I think the reason I can't get along with peopl in my day-to-day life is becasue I am so much smarter than the average prole. The whole world is too stupid for me"
That is a very accurate description of some of the "how can I get women to like me?" threads I've seen around here in the last few years. It both amuses and amazes me how some people can wear their social ineptitude and lack of style/hygene as a perverse badge of pride. Thankfully, theUnknownSoul actually seems to be listening to the advice he's been given instead of saying "The world should change to accomodate me, not the other way around."
Treebore
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First rule of successful living: Adapt or die!
Lets face it, the world is a heck of a lot tougher than we are, so it will always win. So we best find out and adapt to what the world does let us do. Hopefully things that are for the better, because the world is just fine with letting you crash and burn if you want to. Its fine with letting you take down loved ones, complete strangers, and everyone in between. Our decisions and how we act upon them are what determines what we do and what we accomplish, or what we fail at, whether we quit, or whether we keep going. It is all up to us.
Its no ones fault but the person you see in the mirror every time you look. Unless of course you came down with a cancer that you did nothing to increase your chances of getting, or you get dragged into someone elses crash and burn and they take you out. There are a lot of things that are completely out of our ability to control, but there is a lot that is within our abillity, and the key is to honestly acknowledge which is which and to live as best we can.
Lets face it, the world is a heck of a lot tougher than we are, so it will always win. So we best find out and adapt to what the world does let us do. Hopefully things that are for the better, because the world is just fine with letting you crash and burn if you want to. Its fine with letting you take down loved ones, complete strangers, and everyone in between. Our decisions and how we act upon them are what determines what we do and what we accomplish, or what we fail at, whether we quit, or whether we keep going. It is all up to us.
Its no ones fault but the person you see in the mirror every time you look. Unless of course you came down with a cancer that you did nothing to increase your chances of getting, or you get dragged into someone elses crash and burn and they take you out. There are a lot of things that are completely out of our ability to control, but there is a lot that is within our abillity, and the key is to honestly acknowledge which is which and to live as best we can.
MavrickWeirdo
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Treebore said:
But how do you Really feel?
Dark Jezter
First Post
This is very similar to a quote from George Bernard Shaw I heard a while back...Treebore said:
"People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, they make them."
