Yet Another Lonely-Gamer Thread UPDATE 7-8!!!!

[Rel]

Since all the other usual suspects are here, I might as well trot out my old standby as well...

When I was a kid of about 15 I was mooning after this girl and my dad said to me, "Son, I've been your age and I know how you are likely to treat a woman. You think they are SO special because they have a monopoly on the [kitty cat]. And so you want to put them up on a pedestal. But once they're up there on the pedestal, they're really only good for one thing: Worshiping from AFAR. And you don't want to be AFAR. You want to be up close because THAT'S where she keeps the [kitty cat]."

In other words, don't treat her like a princess unless you want to be treated like a serf.

I am by no means advocating that you treat women (and this one in particular) like crap (though it has worked for a lot of guys). But that stuff you see in the movies? That "I will always ALWAYS wait for you..." stuff? What a crock.

Just do your thing. If she wants to chase you, well, it's up to you as to whether you let her catch you or not. But for heaven's sake, don't chase her.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

My guess: She loves the attention of having a guy head over heals with her. What woman wouldn't?! Don't let her knowledge that you care about her become the chains that bind you to her finger.

 

[Teflon Billy]

My guess: She loves the attention of having a guy head over heals with her. What woman wouldn't?! Don't let her knowledge that you care about her become the chains that bind you to her finger.

Solid

 

[Treebore]

That is alot to chew over.

I think the lesson to take from this is: be a man.

Either it happens or it doesn't, but be a man about it.

Accept it for what it is.

Try to see other people, but don't block her out of my life completely.

Don't get closer unless you're willing to get burnt if it fails.

....

I'm supposed to see her next week. Day trip to Cedar Point. We'll see what happens then. I'm keeping all of this in mind for then. My main goal is to make it through the day without mentioning anything related to the topic. We'll see how well that works.

I'll try to keep you all updated.

DAY TRIP to Cedar Point?! You didn't say she was a Ohio/Michigan girl! Run!! Its 98% likely running is the smartest thing to do. Man! It amazes me how many train wreck females live in that area. Of course the guys are only about 3% better. Now if she is from PA/Indiana/W.V. your odds are a bit better, and only get better the farther away from Ohio/Michigan area they live.

I'm serious. I think they should do a huge case study, especially the area from Cleveland around up to Detroit. I think there is something in the soil and/or water around there. Something BAD.

OR maybe it is something as simple as Ohio/Michigan men and women shouldn't have relationships with each other. Something screwy going on around there. Anyways, if you are in the area of Ohio/Michigan I am talking about find a woman from some other part of the country. Worked for me, mine was down in SC. Good luck!

 

[devilbat]

I think that--seperate from this issue entirely--is a good way to live life

Or to quote Trailer Park Boys (and apologies to Eric Grandma)...

[bq]Sometimes she goes, and sometimes she doesn't go...but; that's the way she ing goes boys...

That's the way she ing goes[/bq]

It probably sounds a litte more profound if you know Maritimers .

I do, and it makes perfect sense, in and out of the trailer park.

My favorite saying to my kids, when they're complaining about things is: "Who ever told you life was going to be fair?" It gets to the point quick.

Cool. Don't forget dislike something she likes. I don't know why exactly, but it will give her more of an impression of you as "your own man".

It doesn't matter what you pick...just something she likes; you don't like it. Talk her out of liking it if you can.

Awesome advice. It'll make you feel like you've got your manhood back.

 

[Mistwell]

Time to rip that bandage off. Date someone else. And not to make her jealous, but because it's time for you to move on. It's not going anywhere with her. And if ever could go somewhere, you dating someone else now will give you the perspective you need to decide if you even want to really date her or are just in love with the concept of dating her. Any way you look at it, you should be dating someone else now.

 

[nerfherder]

Ahh, the Teflon Billy signal I never tire of that sight

... a bunch of great advice...

My work in this thread is done.

Cheers,
Liam

P.S. good luck - I hope it works out for you.

 

[glass]

These threads usually end in tragedy.

Not always though. Mine ended up being pretty funny.


glass.

 

[TheUnknownSoul]

DAY TRIP to Cedar Point?! You didn't say she was a Ohio/Michigan girl! Run!! Its 98% likely running is the smartest thing to do. Man! It amazes me how many train wreck females live in that area. Of course the guys are only about 3% better. Now if she is from PA/Indiana/W.V. your odds are a bit better, and only get better the farther away from Ohio/Michigan area they live.

I'm serious. I think they should do a huge case study, especially the area from Cleveland around up to Detroit. I think there is something in the soil and/or water around there. Something BAD.

OR maybe it is something as simple as Ohio/Michigan men and women shouldn't have relationships with each other. Something screwy going on around there. Anyways, if you are in the area of Ohio/Michigan I am talking about find a woman from some other part of the country. Worked for me, mine was down in SC. Good luck!

I knew to be insulted, but that took some real stones.

In answer, yeah, SE Lower Michigan. Was actually proud of it...

Course, both of us were looking to get out of state (not necessariliy together, mind you. Or even the same state)

 

[TheUnknownSoul]

Time to rip that bandage off. Date someone else. And not to make her jealous, but because it's time for you to move on. It's not going anywhere with her. And if ever could go somewhere, you dating someone else now will give you the perspective you need to decide if you even want to really date her or are just in love with the concept of dating her. Any way you look at it, you should be dating someone else now.

Ok, unrelated tangent. Where are some place to meet "new" people?

The vast majority of my friends, like me, are anti-social. I'M the most socialable out of all of them. Most are content to sit around playing D&D and video games on the weekends. Almost all of them hate bars, clubs, etc. And I don't blame them.

Three friends are paired off (engaged, girlfriend, boyfriend), two aren't looking (not interested in dating, period) and my last friend is Kay (she likes going out and such. In fact, thats one of the original reason we started hanging out again, we had no one else that like to go out with like that).

I met all of them (and the vast majority of my ex's) at college or High School. Oh, and I work in a school. Dating prospects there are slim, unless I want to be arrested.

So aside from hanging out at local bars or the internet, I'm really tapped as to where to start meeting new people.