Dire Bare said:
Jeysie, have you ever known a teacher who has lost their job, their career, and possibly their freedom due to false allegations of molestation?
Nope. As I said earlier, I've been hugged by teachers, been (back in my really bratty days) bodily dragged off to the principal by teachers, been helped with technique in gym class, stayed after with teachers for musical and otherwise instruction, etc. Not *once* have I ever seen a teacher shy away from touching a student if it made sense. Maybe back in the staff room where I couldn't see, the upper management was wringing their hands, but the teachers didn't change their styles. *shrug*
And, like I said, I've been the teenage girl hanging out with a group of adults many times. Nothing bad has ever happened, and I've always enjoyed the experience. If I seem naive, it's because it just was not ever an issue in my childhood, so I'm pretty weirded out that it's an issue a scant 10-15 years later.
Dire Bare said:
I'm going out on a limb here and guessing you are not a teacher and have absolutely no experience in this area. Am I right?
I have no direct experience, no. But the only place I've ever heard of it happening is on the media in places not here.
And, quite frankly, given the media's bad sensationalist track record involving other things I have experience of, like video games, roleplaying, meeting online friends in person, etc... I'm having a hard time swallowing this, too. Like I said, while I have known people who were abused, it was all by their peers, not by adults.
So... it's still a double-standard to me. 16 and 17 still isn't legal age, so you can't use that excuse. To me the only difference is that she's a girl (be honest, if the 14-year-old was a boy, would this thread even exist?). I agree with what someone else said: if slander is what you're concerned about, I guess you'd have problems with a female of any age joining the group... which to me is another sad topic.
I dunno. I guess that being someone who is a bit of a feminist; who gained a lot of valuable life experiences from time spent outside of school with adults, both teachers and otherwise; and who was far more scared of being around her *peers* as a kid than adults... well, it all bristles me a bit.
I guess also it's my "Do onto others" tendencies... I know that if *I* was in this sort of situation as a teen, was disallowed being able to game and given these sorts of reasons why, I'd be very disappointed and angry. Also, we never did yet hear why the girl decided to approach the older group did we? If I ended up doing so because they were the most accessible group or because I thought the other groups my age were immature/unfun, I'd be even more disappointed because then I wouldn't even be able to game.
I guess all I can do is bow out and say that I guess I'm very, very glad I got to be a pre-teen/teenager in 1990's Pittsfield, 'cause I didn't have to personally deal with these apparent problems. ;P (Dealt with plenty of *other* problems, but not these.)
Peace & Luv, Liz