Felix said:
Teachers who wrongly get brought up on child abuse charges rarely know in advance who the slanderer will be. This does happen. And to some degree it makes sense: the necessity is to protect the child, in the pursuit of which doubt is more quickly cast upon the adult.
Well, I guess my point is: if the parents and teenager are OK with the arrangement, then *they're* obviously not going to say anything. So... kind of wondering who else would say something?
Somebody: "Oh, he behaved inappropriately towards that girl!"
Other players, Girl, Girl's Parents: "Actually, nothing happened."
Somebody: "Oh, well, uh... never mind, then."
Also, what I meant was, I don't personally know any parents or kids who worry about that sort of thing. I can't think of any parents who would panic if their kid was hugged or tickled by a teacher... certainly mine didn't. I've hugged teachers, had gym teachers touch me to help show proper body technique for sports, played rough-and-tumble games with counselors... nobody ever got all paranoid about it.
And, I mean, I'm still pretty young. I was a kid in the *90s*, not back in the 60s or something.
dpetroc said:
Yes - maybe that's an American perspective and not as applicable to the Australian experience - but does the potential risk outweigh whatever can be deduced as a benefit?
Well, the big problem is what you already stated:
dpetroc said:
Helicopter parents and 'kids' who call mommy and daddy when they failed a test after not attending class for two months because it "wasn't fair" -- and the parents calling the Dean to complain! A lot of kids are taking a LOT longer to grow up - and parents are more protective, and prone to reacting first, thinking later if ANYTHING untoward can be PERCEIVED as happening to their child.
Basically, the more we disallow kids from being able to talk to adults and see them as real people and hear what life is like from an adult perspective... the more adults are unable to talk to kids and be able to find out about what kids are doing and thinking and their culture... the more parents mollycoddle their kids from being able to make their own choices and deal with the consequences...
Well, the more we end up with those kids who take forever to grow up, are detached from parents and authority figures, and are unprepared for actually dealing with the real world outside of school. I see it as a very, very bad downward spiral.
Peace & Luv, Liz