I agree with the 4e entitlement thing, and I love 4e and play it weekly. 4e seems to put a strong emphasis on having only conflicts the character can solve with no planning, and without having to run away. Read any official module, and as I recall, the DMG doesn't encourage having any planning, or having imbalanced encounters.
Can your game be different? Sure. Your game can be whatever you want it to be. But let's look at wotc modules, the Dnd encounters, and advice given in books before the authors words are brushed aside as being strictly inflammatory with no truth.