Darrin Drader
Explorer
If this is in reference to Wisdom Penalty and myself (and others), you may want to reread, because this isn't what we said. (If it's not inreference to us, of course, never mind.)
With particular reference to me, believe me, I've never had a problem with players gaining control of my game.
I'm seriously generalizing. It isn't referencing what either of you said specifically, it's just that a lot of DMs voiced throughout 3rd edition that they didn't feel like they were in control. I certainly agree than in many cases, there were probably more rules that were really needed, which were spread out over too many splats, but the DM shouldn't be afraid to take the RAW and make them his own. After all, the rules are just a framework upon which to hang a story; they are not the ends in themselves.