Did I do the right thing?

[ph34r]

As a "crime of moral turpitude" it is a deportable offense even for individuals who are Lawful Permanent Residents.

And deport them to where? Penal Colony 14?

 

[Krieg]

And deport them to where? Penal Colony 14?

Their country of origin presumably.

 

[tarchon]

Their country of origin presumably.

Or planet. That almost happened to Mork once.

 

[KenM]

I am a little mad that the whore mislead me from day one and said she did not want to do drugs anymore. The decetful peace of crap did not care about my feelings, just what she would get out of it. I would really like to tell you what i want to do to her, but it would get me banned, or worse. So maybe I did have a little revenge in mind, but it was still the right thing to do, if I get a little satifaction out of it, so much the better.

 

[Krieg]

So maybe I did have a little revenge in mind,

Umm ya think?

but it was still the right thing to do,

Any action motivated by anger or vengeance is never the right thing to do.

if I get a little satifaction out of it, so much the better.

See above.

It was petty and small and in the end won't really make you feel better about the whole sad situation.

Hopefully your next relationship will be with someone more stable and trustworthy than your last one.

Unfortunately all you can do is let go and move ahead.

 

[Torm]

I am a little mad that the whore mislead me from day one and said she did not want to do drugs anymore. The decetful peace of crap did not care about my feelings, just what she would get out of it. I would really like to tell you what i want to do to her, but it would get me banned, or worse. So maybe I did have a little revenge in mind, but it was still the right thing to do, if I get a little satifaction out of it, so much the better.

Well! You certainly proved me wrong. Congrats.

I'd be amazed that the above was written by a 37 (thirty-seven?!) year old, if it wasn't for examples already set in my family.

Those of you who thought this was an act of vengence from the start simply have to let me in on the secrets of your psychic powers.

 

[loki44]

I am a little mad that the whore mislead me from day one and said she did not want to do drugs anymore. The decetful peace of crap did not care about my feelings, just what she would get out of it. I would really like to tell you what i want to do to her, but it would get me banned, or worse. So maybe I did have a little revenge in mind, but it was still the right thing to do, if I get a little satifaction out of it, so much the better.

Aha.....so the real KenM emerges. Vindictive, spiteful and a bit misogynistic it appears. You didn't mention before that you were hanging out with a prostitute and perhaps she really did not WANT to do drugs anymore but just couldn't kick the habit. Why not go ahead and cross that line? I'd say you already came pretty close.

 

[KenM]

You took the word whore literally, it was an insult directed at her. The fourm sensor would not let me post the real insult I wanted to use. So I'm petty and small for doing this? I'm just making her feel the way she made me feel when I knew what was going on. I got a person that constenly drives while imparied off the street, I did the right thing. Do not judge me until you walk a mile in my shoes. She told me she never wanted to stop, its who she was. When I found out she was using again, she told me: "I can't be fake with you" To me this means she was hiding it all along, she presented herself as a totally different person at first. She knew drugs are an issue for me, but she did not care. If I knew who she really was, i never would have spend that much time with her.

 

[Torm]

So I'm petty and small for doing this? I'm just making her feel the way she made me feel when I knew what was going on. I got a person that constenly drives while imparied off the street, I did the right thing. Do not judge me until you walk a mile in my shoes.

If you are angry with a man, try walking a mile in his shoes. Then, you're a mile away, and you have his shoes.

Petty and small is having so little respect for your fellows on ENWorld as to spout the hatefulness that you've posted in these last two posts. It is also asking other people's opinions on your actions - which says that you KNOW there might be something wrong with them - and then getting angry when they don't back your actions. It is ALSO leaving her and calling the authorities for the reasons you have now stated. Before I was giving you the benefit of the doubt and assuming that you had left her because you couldn't take on responsibility for her with other responsibilities you have that it would interfere with - an unfortunate, but understandable reason. And I assumed you called the police out of legitimate concern for her and people she might endanger. But it turns out that instead of honorable reasons, you did these things out of a desire to push yourself back up from feeling rejected in favor of the drugs (which, apparently, you don't understand the meaning of ADDICTION - it isn't about you at all) by pushing her down. Equal and opposite reaction may work in physics, but can you honestly tell me you feel better? I doubt it.

Addiction: She can't quit, not for long, on her own. She thinks she NEEDS the drugs - either because there are things in her life around her she can't face, or she doesn't like herself but can hide that in the drug's effects. People in this situation need someone to stand with them - to tell them that they will help them overcome those things around them, or to build them up until they believe they have worth again without the drugs. And I'm not about to pretend that there aren't people so broken as to be beyond redemption even for the most heroic efforts - but that isn't even close to what I'm hearing from you.

Believe it or not (probably not, since people tend to take truth they don't want as an attack), I still wish you well in your future relationships. But I want you to realize that as long as your relationships are, for you, about YOU and not about her, they will either fail or be bad for whomever she is. Is that what you want?

You should call her, Ken - fix this. Did you even tell her that it HURT you for her to choose the drugs over you? Did you tell her that you loved her without the drugs? Or did you tear her down for doing them, instead?

I've been tryin' to get down to the Heart of the Matter
Because the flesh will get weak
And the ashes will scatter
So I'm thinkin' about forgiveness
Forgiveness
Even if, even if you don't love me anymore
- Don Henley

The burden of truth looks SO much heavier, but is really much lighter than the burden of guilt.

I know you're probably instinctively wanting to lash back out at me for saying all this: I want you to fight that, for just a moment, and consider that for the first part of this thread I was firmly on you side. Now realize - I still am. So why am I saying these things? Think about it.

One last thing - don't ask people whether you did right or not, and then say, "don't judge me." What did you ASK for, if not judgment?

 

[Ampolitor]

Hmm

to the statment of asking about the bac, well its .08 for face value evidence but as I said ANYTHING that impairs your physical or mental faculties can get you nailed for DwI, which included marijuana. DWI is a misdemeanor depending on the factors, if an accident is involved, if a drug is involved (possession comes into play yada, yada, yada) how many priors etc... As to the guys who say its not bad, well I had a guy blow a .32, he was already pending a dwi trial, so after the superbowl he ran a stop sign and smashed into a 25 year old mother on her way to work killing her. could of been someone you knew.
On the other hand he killed the wrong woman, he was found with two rounds in his back last week face down on a street.