A preference for 4E and consistently finding prep for 3E to be "work" are not linked.
4E is easier to DM for, and even an inexperienced DM can get good results, thanks to the "hand-holding".
I agree. We are back to the hitting a ball of a tee is easier thing.
But if you're already an experienced DM, it's still easier to get good results. I just don't see how 3E can give me better results. I just see where DMing because more difficult - I have mastered D&D (or rather Arcana Evolved) in the 10+ regions of D&D, and I've seen others master it at that level. It was a lot of work.
I can't think of a time in years when it felt like work to me.
And I have no way of knowing what kind of results either edition is giving you.
I'm completely on board with the understanding that different people want different things out of a game.
But I know what I want and I know what I am getting now. And I know that the "hand holding" plays a direct role in making the current edition far less satisfactory in providing the level of game I'm looking for.
I'm not trying to state a truth for you in terms of what you want. But your anecdote does not invalidate mine any more than mine invalidates yours.
But I'll stand firmly by the statement that it doesn't need to be work. It takes some learning curve, no doubt. All worthwhile things do. But my games run the gambit from massively detailed npcs that I have put a lot of time into to running 10+ level npcs on the fly when my players take a left turn I didn't expect.
If I put a lot of time into a character, it is because I want to. If I don't want to, I don't do it. I've got a level of experience and judgment that this works great for me.
It is a game. If you are working you are doing something wrong. And if the only solution for you is to play a different game, then I fully endorse you doing so. But don't try to tell me that my experience is in any way tied to yours.
There are things that 3E offers that 4E doesn't. Even Mearls has stated that. So when people try to claim that they are getting the same results I assume the most likely answer is they never really got the real value out of 3E in the first place. Either that or it is simple sour grapes talk.