Game session abruptly canceled

[Nifft]

Take off and nuke the players from orbit.
It's the only way to be sure.

-- N

 

[boerngrim]

No. Exchanging heated words over it does.

If that is not self-evident to you and others reading and replying to this - then nothing I say is going to matter.

I can see your point. I may well have overreacted. It does take 2 to make an exchange though so I believe I'm not the only jerk.
thanks.

 

[boerngrim]

Take off and nuke the players from orbit.
It's the only way to be sure.

-- N

Well, thanks for the laugh.

 

[Rhun]

No. Exchanging heated words over it does.

They are called emotions, and most people have them. It doesn't make them a jerk. And FWIW, I'd rather be called a jerk and stand up for myself than let someone think that canceling on me at the last minute is an acceptable practice.

 

[Crothian]

I can see your point. I may well have overreacted. It does take 2 to make an exchange though so I believe I'm not the only jerk.
thanks.

Just because the other guy might also have been a jerk though doesn't make it okay. I'd just sit down with him and the wife and ask why she felt she couldn't bring the kids over. And don't get defensive about whatever reasons she gives that won't help anything.

 

[Wulf Ratbane]

I don't have any children of my own and probably never will. I'm totally inept at romance. Big surprise huh.

Gamer, totally inept at romance, flying off the hook when someone "disappoints" you...

Allow me to be the first to flaunt ENworld's own, unique brand of Godwin's Law, and just diagnose you with Asperger's here and now.

 

[Nifft]

Allow me to be the first to flaunt ENworld's own, unique brand of Godwin's Law, and just diagnose you with Asperger's here and now.

At least he isn't a libertarian raccoon...

Cheers, -- N

 

[boerngrim]

Gamer, totally inept at romance, flying off the hook when someone "disappoints" you...

Allow me to be the first to flaunt ENworld's own, unique brand of Godwin's Law, and just diagnose you with Asperger's here and now.

I guess I do fit the profile. I also have a tendancy to internalize my anger and obsess over little plastic figures.......

 

[Steel_Wind]

Gamer, totally inept at romance, flying off the hook when someone "disappoints" you...

Allow me to be the first to flaunt ENworld's own, unique brand of Godwin's Law, and just diagnose you with Asperger's here and now.

[off topic]

I know it was kind of meant in jest...and I'm sure that some (perhaps "many" of the 50,000 members) ENworlders do have Asperger's Syndrome.

FWIW, my eight year old son was diagnosed with Asperger's last summer. He's a total natural gamer too - and I probably have not assisted him in avoiding that pitfall (if it is a "pitfall"...)

That said - there IS a wee bit more to Asperger's than some of the things bandied about here (and on other threads) recently. It's a touch more complicated than that

http://www.aspergers.ca/

[/off-topic]

 

[Ourph]

You were out of line.

I'm disappointed.

This is understandable.

Then I get frustrated

This is also understandable, given past cancellations at the last minute. This was the mindset you should have been in when you called your friend back. Explain to him that you are frustrated about the last minute cancellations. Ask why this sort of thing happens. See if he has any input on how to make it happen less often or to make the odd occasion less frustrating for you. It may be that he can't help it and you'll just have to put up with the occasional last minute cancellation. You then get to decide whether you want gaming with occasional disappointment and frustration or no gaming without the disappointment of last minute cancellations. You agree above that his family priorities should come first, so it's something you may just have to accept.

then I get mad <snip> somehow its twisted to where I'm the one who's out of line because I think people should follow through on things they have agreed to do and not cancel at the last minute.

This is where you become unreasonable. Getting mad without talking about your frustration reasonably first is an overreaction. You also seem to be placing an awful lot of emphasis on following through on a plan to participate in a voluntary, recreational activity. IMO you were being unreasonable, which is probably why your friend reacted so negatively. You should apologize.