Gaming and orgies don't mix

[reanjr]

It SHOULD be a word. And that's what matters to me.

 

[Rystil Arden]

It SHOULD be a word. And that's what matters to me.

Oh, it *is* a word. I use it all the time to disambiguate my abstruse exhortations.

 

[Berandor]

That's okay with me - I assure you that people finding things about my life weird is ... ordinary

Hey, you're Torm. The concerns of the chaotic masses are negligent.

Berandor, Paladin (though I mus say calling myself "Chosen of Torm" suddenly has an eerie undercurrent )

 

[Darth K'Trava]

My only gender confusion involves my butchery of the German language. It's clear I'm going to need to change my handle to der_kluge just to get Rel to shut up!

And he'd come up with something else to rib you about.....

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Hey, you're Torm. The concerns of the chaotic masses are negligent.

Berandor, Paladin (though I mus say calling myself "Chosen of Torm" suddenly has an eerie undercurrent )

Yup... makes me wanna do something about my quote in the ye olde sig.....

 

[Darth K'Trava]

I try not to judge people based on preconceptions of groups or labels. That said, having known quite a few swingers, I'd say they tend to have a good number of loyalty issues. Which is to say, they may be fine to hang around with, but I wouldn't entrust them with anything that requires responsibility to another person, and I sure hope they don't have kids.

Since the topic has come up, my wife and I are faithful polygynists - not swingers, but we have dated the occasional woman (3, actually, in 13 years) together, before, with the intent of her coming to live with us as family. And I'd have to say that while gaming is certainly a common interest that has led us to approach a woman before, we certainly wouldn't have done so at the gaming table itself!

Brings a whole new meaning to "House of the Triad", doesn't it?

Gaming brings in alot of different interests and cultural "tastes" that come in all flavors and whatnot....

 

[Darth K'Trava]

That's okay with me - I assure you that people finding things about my life weird is ... ordinary.

I guess so....you're definitely not normal by any stretch of the imagination.....

 

[DaveStebbins]

I try not to judge people based on preconceptions of groups or labels. That said, having known quite a few swingers, I'd say they tend to have a good number of loyalty issues. Which is to say, they may be fine to hang around with, but I wouldn't entrust them with anything that requires responsibility to another person, and I sure hope they don't have kids.

Hasn't been my experience AT ALL. Granted, I'm not a swinger myself, but I have spent quite a bit of time with several of these couples and they have all been great people and, where applicable, great parents. I find their honesty, openness and accepting attitudes has made them better parents than many of the more close-minded poeple whom I know who espouse "traditional" attitudes. As I said, my data population is too small to consider it universal, maybe I've just been lucky in being able to associate with great people, but even the swingers I spent casual time with all certainly seemed no worse (and mostly no different) than the general population.

I can certainly see the potential for problems. In addition to the openness and desire for it, adopting that particular lifestyle requires a very high level of communication and respect between a couple for it to work long-term, and I don't think very many couples function well-enough to where I would recommend they consider it. On the other hand, the swingers I've hung out with have all seemed to possess this level of respect and communication with each other, so I can easily believe my exerience is atypical.

Since the topic has come up, my wife and I are faithful polygynists - not swingers, but we have dated the occasional woman (3, actually, in 13 years) together, before, with the intent of her coming to live with us as family. And I'd have to say that while gaming is certainly a common interest that has led us to approach a woman before, we certainly wouldn't have done so at the gaming table itself!

Good for you. I hope everything works out for you. Accepting and acknowledging that you have preferences different from most people takes a lot of courage. It is even more difficult when you live in a society that is probably less accepting of your preferences than it is of homosexuality. That also means you and your wife and I have something in common. We're all looking for a nice girl to settle down with.

-Dave

 

[DaveStebbins]

My only gender confusion involves my butchery of the German language. It's clear I'm going to need to change my handle to der_kluge just to get Rel to shut up!

Don't do that. It's better if you KNOW what he'll be on about. If you make him change, you never know what he'll dig up on you and blab all over the forums next time.

-Dave

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Frankly, it takes guts for someone of a more "alternative" lifestyle, like Dave's swingers and Torm and his wife to come out and say that they do this or do that.... like approach women. I'm sure there's been backlashing from that.... Granted, I wouldn't smack someone for that when I've been "smacked around" due to skin color..... After that, sexual preferences are not much different in being "different from the norm".... especially when you live around a bunch of close-minded rednecks like some of us do in this part of the country.... I'm not sure if SC has more rednecks than rural areas of NC or not.... but being in the "Bible belt" doesn't help either. I know friends who'd take great offense if they found out someone they knew lived this kind of lifestyle. Not that I do. It just ain't my cup o' tea but I'm not gonna say anything if someone else wants to pursue this kind of life.... same thing goes for gays... what they do in private is their own biz, not mine.