Gaming and orgies don't mix

[Darth K'Trava]

Should I know anything before I share a room with you at Gen Con??

He likes to play footsie?

 

[DaveStebbins]

Should I know anything before I share a room with you at Gen Con??

I just asked the same question of you, Curtis, in the thread about Googling your screen name! That's where Rel revealed that the "Die" in your screen name throws a gender question into the mix. LMAO, now we'll both be looking at each other funny when we meet.

Actually, my friend and I DO play footsie at the game table, but she also hits me when I make rude jokes (her husband has the sense to sit out of reach). He and I share the same warped sense of humor and we don't even need to speak anymore. A couple of sessions ago, my friend was talking about how laid back one of the other gamers was, making him immune to our verbal jabs at him. She said, "You guys can't get a rise out of him. I bet we'd have to have his wife here for that. She'd know how to get him going." My buddy and I immediately looked at each other and grinned. We never said a word, but we both knew we were thinking the same thing. As soon as she saw us smiling, his wife realized what she had said and where we would take it if we were going to bother to say anything. She immediately declared us both to be horrible and hit me.

And it didn't help at all when my buddy and I both protested that we hadn't even said anything.

If you want, while we're at GenCon, remind me to tell you some stories. I have a couple that would make my own grandmother (much less Eric's) clutch at her chest and yell at me that I'm headed straight to hell.

-Dave

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Dave: you don't have to say anything at all and still get into trouble! All it took was her seeing you two look at one another and grin to do it....

 

[der_kluge]

I just asked the same question of you, Curtis, in the thread about Googling your screen name! That's where Rel revealed that the "Die" in your screen name throws a gender question into the mix. LMAO, now we'll both be looking at each other funny when we meet.

My only gender confusion involves my butchery of the German language. It's clear I'm going to need to change my handle to der_kluge just to get Rel to shut up!

 

[Torm]

Well, my best friend and her husband are swingers. <snip> Swingers are no worse, in general, than any other group, including gamers.

I try not to judge people based on preconceptions of groups or labels. That said, having known quite a few swingers, I'd say they tend to have a good number of loyalty issues. Which is to say, they may be fine to hang around with, but I wouldn't entrust them with anything that requires responsibility to another person, and I sure hope they don't have kids.

Since the topic has come up, my wife and I are faithful polygynists - not swingers, but we have dated the occasional woman (3, actually, in 13 years) together, before, with the intent of her coming to live with us as family. And I'd have to say that while gaming is certainly a common interest that has led us to approach a woman before, we certainly wouldn't have done so at the gaming table itself!

 

[reanjr]

It's rather like saying, "The man went berserk and shot his neighbor's wife." Why is the man the default "neighbor," with his wife as the "neighbor's wife"? Isn't his wife also a neighbor?

Okay, I'm done with my ramble. >.>

Actually, there is a good reason for that wording. By saying "neighbor's wife", you have succintly stated that the man lived next to a married couple and shot the woman. By saying neighbor, you have left out that the victim was a married woman. In addition, because of the way people put thoughts together, since the shooter is a man, the automatic gender assumption becomes male for any neuter nouns following. On the other hand, if the shooter is a woman, the gender assumption becomes female. Good writers understand this implicitly and let you know the facts before your mind has clouded the discussion with assumptions.

As to the man and wife thing, it's just tradition. I'm pretty sure most people think nothing of it's possessiveness.

 

[reanjr]

Personally, I prefer the genderless third person plural pronouns to be used as a singular genderless third person pronoun.

I use it in speech but I cringe when I see it writing, so I avoid it. I will use the genderless pronoun "one" but if it forces too many uses of "they", "their", and "them", I will reword. In any kind of technical writing (of which d20 rules could be considered), I will usually pick genders for different aspects or categories. For instance, in my house rules, I refer to the GM as "she" and the players as "he". It gives a subtle reminder as to who you are speaking of consistently throughout the document. It also disambiguates otherwise confusing sentences with little effort.

 

[reanjr]

Since the topic has come up, my wife and I are faithful polygynists - not swingers, but we have dated the occasional woman (3, actually, in 13 years) together, before, with the intent of her coming to live with us as family. And I'd have to say that while gaming is certainly a common interest that has led us to approach a woman before, we certainly wouldn't have done so at the gaming table itself!

Somehow I find the original story somehow ordinary, but yours weird.

 

[Torm]

Somehow I find the original story somehow ordinary, but yours weird.

That's okay with me - I assure you that people finding things about my life weird is ... ordinary.

 

[the Jester]

disambiguates

New word, love it!