Gay men or women who play D&D

[Pelosan Emperor]

Add one more gay gamer to the list. I've been a gamer since I was 11, and gay forever (although it took me until I was 22 to come to terms with it).

I'm lucky in many ways, but most of all because of my partner of 6 years. He identifies as bisexual, and just last year finally decided to try gaming with our group. (One more thing for us to share ) He's even thinking about trying to GM sometime!

Of course, we are both out to our gaming group (6 straight guys)... I suppose we have to be since we play in our dining room

The fact that my partner and I are gay really doesn't enter into our gaming experience. In fact, our gaming group really doesn't touch on sex or romance. Most of the gamers (me included) really wouldn't be comfortable with adding that aspect.

I don't see that my being gay has really had an effect on my gaming, except that I'm more willing to play female characters.

Angelsboi - I'm sorry to hear about your break-up. My thoughts are with you.

PE

 

[Henry]

Thanks to Furn and WizardDru for understanding the gist of my point. Even whacked-out Charles Manson thinks that the people who put him behind bars are the "bad guys."

Since the "good and evil" thing took us too far afield, I'll stop here. But if anyone here personally knows someone who prefers to do acts they consider wrong and evil, and is perfectly and intellectually happy with it, then THAT would be a subject for a fantastic thesis, Beholderburger.

Peace out, all.

 

[Benben]

Okay I think I get it now.

All I wanna know is what I said earlier. Do you feel the need to abide by a set of core values and "life-pathways" that reflect an attempt to conform for more acceptance by the wider community ,you know, as if your only allowed so much non conformity and you have to make up for it in other ways. Or do you feel really liberated to actually do anything you want. Im not concerned with your actual choices, rather I am concerned with whether you feel pressure to do it.

Let me see if I understand this. That since I'm already a minorty, I can feel that I've reached my noncoformity limit and therefore need to toe the line?

What the alienation I've felt as a gamer and the alienation I've felt as a gay man are two different feelings. I don't think emotions can really be added together like that. I hate stupid drivers, I hate brussel sprouts, and I hate scratches on my new car. This doesn't mean I go throughout my day seething with hatred.

I guess then I'm comfortable with both my status as a gaymer.

BeholderBurger, you might also want to check out:

The gaymer mailing list on yahoo:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gaymers

And for another minority gay comic book fans:
http://forums.delphiforums.com/gaycomics/start

Anything else you need?

 

[MythicJustice]

Cool,

All I wanna know is what I said earlier. Do you feel the need to abide by a set of core values and "life-pathways" that reflect an attempt to conform for more acceptance by the wider community ,you know, as if your only allowed so much non conformity and you have to make up for it in other ways. Or do you feel really liberated to actually do anything you want. Im not concerned with your actual choices, rather I am concerned with whether you feel pressure to do it.

Thanks

I think you might be thinking too generally. I don't believe any gay person could answer your question just one way or the other. I know I can't.

I really don't think about my life in terms of conforming or non-conforming behavior nor do I feel a need to conform or feel liberated by my sexual non-conformity, whatever that may mean.

Personally, I feel pressured in the same areas my co-workers and friends are. I work hard so I don't get fired for instance.

I believe your question may be based on some preconceptions about Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual, and Transgenderal people that just isn't true.

Chad Justice

 

[Tristissima]

Well, I'm queer, pagan, and utter gaming geek and completely, entirely, fantastically, obviously, blatantly, and annoyingly (to some ) out of all three closets (bedroom, broom, and gaming-book) to absolutely anyone and everyone (except my family :-( but that has nothing to do with this). Everyone seems to be pretty accepting. In fact, I've gotten more flack from the campus LGB (they say the Catholic university won't let them put transgendered in their name) group than I have my gamers. Evidently, some of them don't believe I'm gay (well, I'm queer, not gay, but you get the idea). But agian, I digress. As for the point of the question, I (obviously) have never felt any need to conform. Pressure, oh hell yeah, but never an internalized need.

On a side point, I have actually been creating for some months now (a littl off and on) a fantasy D&D world inspired in certain ways by both Lovecraft and elements of queer theory. They seem to be a very good fit, actually. Yet another digression.

On a second side point, why can't all these gaymer pagans live in California dammit! Ya'll live either in Georgia, Massachusetts, Missouri, or Australia. Or so it seems to me. Consider this an open call for Californian gaymer pagans to let me know you exist! But now I have digressed much too much and will therefore stop typing.

 

[hong]

(they say the Catholic university won't let them put transgendered in their name)

Transgenders: more than meets the eye!


Hong "sorry, it's late" Ooi

 

[Mistwell]

While I do not roleplay with this group, I do play board games (Settlers, Cheap Ass, Robo Raley, Wizwar, pretty much anything) with quite an odd group. It is composed of two bisexual polyamorous folks, sometimes their current lover, a transsexual lesbian, and myself. I'm the only straight person in the group, unless my girlfriend joins in as well for a game.

As for my D&D group - I have no idea. One person is married, the rest are all seeing someone of the opposite sex, but that doesn't mean they are all straight. I never thought to ask.

 

[Benben]

(they say the Catholic university won't let them put transgendered in their name)

On a second side point, why can't all these gaymer pagans live in California dammit! Ya'll live either in Georgia, Massachusetts, Missouri, or Australia. Or so it seems to me. Consider this an open call for Californian gaymer pagans to let me know you exist! But now I have digressed much too much and will therefore stop typing.

See if you can change the groups name to the Queer Student Association. That covers everything unders the sun and you don't have to worry about getting your Gs, Bs, Ls, and Ts mixed up. It's a club not a sandwich.

The magic of message boards is that you find people just like yourself a thousands of miles away!

 

[lord irial]

My boyfriend and I both play rpgs, and I know several gay and lesbian, bi and even a transexual who plays. Most of my group currently is straight, but I've actually DM'd for a year or so for an all-gay group, several years ago.

 

[barsoomcore]

The one thing i've noticed, i'll have no qualms playing a female character. Whereas my straight players would never play a female character. I guess we are more comfortable with the fact thats its ok to "role' play female characters, that may fall in love with a male character.

Straight guy who's played a number of female characters. Having been a DM lo these many years, I'm very used to playing all sorts of characters, but playing female characters was never a problem for me or any of the straight guys I knew.

Okay, maybe not "any". But I know a number of straight guys who play female characters with complete authority.

I've played gay characters, too.

People are awfully hard to pin down, aren't they?