Gay men or women who play D&D

[WizarDru]

Okay, maybe not "any". But I know a number of straight guys who play female characters with complete authority.

I've played gay characters, too.

People are awfully hard to pin down, aren't they?

This is true. I've had several players who've played characters of another gender, and all of them, to my recollection, have been straight. Go figure.

 

[Dinkeldog]

Re: Re: Re: Gay men or women who play D&D

As for homosexual gamers- There was a bi- person in my college group, but my current is very blue-collar. If someone was gay, then I doubt they would ever bring it up.

FD

That pretty much sums it up for me (except the "very blue-collar" part). I don't bring it up.

Does that count as "pressure to conform"? Probably, but mostly because I'm pretty lazy and generally a "bad gay man"; I don't want to have my entire life be a struggle for acceptance. In this case, my acceptance comes easily because I have the same hobbies, and don't want to risk putting conflict into my recreation time.

A few years ago, I would have said otherwise. Now I'm older and more tired--maybe wiser.

 

[Dinkeldog]

i agree with Duncan. I need to find myself a nice boy who is a gaymer and pagan.

I'm pretty happy with my current boyfriend. He doesn't game, but he's got some other hobbies that I don't get. Means we both get time to ourselves without hard feelings.

 

[Trevalon Moonleirion]

originally posted by Pelosan Emperor

Of course, we are both out to our gaming group (6 straight guys)... I suppose we have to be since we play in our dining room

I hate to hijack the thread, but the quote sort of stuck out to me... why do you have to be out since you play in the dining room? I might be just being a total theatre nerd, but that is one of the vignettes in a play I just did last fall called The Dining Room: a daughter struggles to tell her father that she's gay and he's rather surprised...

I'm probably just making connections that don't exist though... anyhow.

Don't know any gays that play D&D...though I'm sure some gay theatre people would probably enjoy D&D...

 

[Mistwell]

Wulf, name one real individual who ever set out to do an act they considered evil. Even serial killers and tyrants are acting in what they consider to be their own best interests. The only time someone consciously sets out to do something they know is wrong is in highly emotional states, and the majority of those will cease to do those actions if they ever stop to think about them carefully.

I think you are wrong. There are people who do things they consider evil, for the sake of the feeling the get in doing evil.

Drive-by shootings are often real acts of evil. Sometimes they are done to get into a gang, which perhaps some gangbangers consider self-interest/self-protection only. However, some do it after they get into the gang JUST for the thrill of killing a stranger. When captured and asked, they often explain that they don't expect to live long anyway, and do it just because it's wrong to do, because they are doing something that everyone agrees is wrong, and trying to get away with it for the thrill they get from it. They do not change their opinion once they are in a calm state of mind.

There are unfortunately several of these people on death row right now in California (unfortuante that there are so many, not that they are on death row). I think some serial killers fit this description as well (though I don't know if Manson fits that description or not).

Some people really are evil, in both mind and deed, rather than just deed.

[Edit: I had a boss once who might fit this bill as well, though I admit I might be a bit biased on that subject].

 

[Wulf Ratbane]

I think you are wrong.

He's demonstrably wrong, his attempts at moral relativism notwithstanding.

Just as there are still "good" people in the world with moral absolutes, there are still "evil" people in the world with the exact same moral absolutes, and still they choose evil because they enjoy evil.

 

[Laslo Tremaine]

Man-o-man, but do I love this board!

Another gay gamer here. And I'm one of those who is out about being gay (to my firends, co-workers, family... everyone!) and totally closeted about being a gamer (my gamer buddies know (obviously) as do a few family members. No one at my workplace knows, nor do any of my gay friends or casual aquaintances.

As far as how far outside of the norm I go while gaming, that is a tough question. Sexuality is not really handled in any of my gaming groups, or if it is, it is pretty abstracted. My current character in my D&D group is pretty asexual, I'm not even sure what orientation he is...

Since I came out (roughly 10 years ago) about 90% of my characters have been gay men. Before that, I would guess that maybe 60% were straight men and 40% women...

The story that I like to tell about my main group of gaming buddies (who are all straight) is when we played the introductory scenario for Feng Shui. For those of you not familiar with it, the main goal is to defend a noodle shop, its owner and his lovely young daughter from evil forces. The daughter is your basic engenue, and obviously intended to be a focus of attention for the player characters. When we reallized this we all kinda looked around at each other and then broke into uproarious laughter. You see everyone at the table was playing a female character, except for me, and my character was gay! We promptly ret-conned the pretty young daughter into a handsome young son and contunued playing without skipping a beat!


Oh, and Anglesboi, my condolences...

 

[WizarDru]

and do it just because it's wrong to do, because they are doing something that everyone agrees is wrong, and trying to get away with it for the thrill they get from it. They do not change their opinion once they are in a calm state of mind.

I'm not disagreeing with you, but I did want to point out that everyone doesn't agree that they're wrong: their peers validate them for it...that's half the reason they do it.

That said, this is fuel for a different thread, methinks.

 

[Balsamic Dragon]

Several of the people I game with are gay. Plus those who are bi, plus those who are poly,... it's all good

However, the weird thing is that I know about three times the number of gay gamers than I do non-white gamers! Not sure why this is, it's something I've wondered about frequently.

Is this the case with other gaming groups? Any idea why?

Balsamic Dragon

 

[alsih2o]

i was chatting with a friend about this thread and it occured to me that i don't know whaether most of my group is gay or straight.....and i am having trouble caring...i do tend to pigeon hole people by gamer/nongamer, and their appreciation of art, and their job, but their genitals bore me to tears....