Head over heels for a girl.

[Ferret]

I met someone. Some one I'm head over heels in love with. And now I know what love is.

Love is about being scared, like I am now. I'm scarred that if I ask her out (again) she will think I'm obsessed with here, in a bad way, and all I've been getting was mixed signals. I'm scared that if I don't ask, I'll lose her. I'm scared that I'll stop loving here, no matter how impossible it seems. I'm scared she doesn't love me. I'm scared I'm becoming unhealthily obsessed with her.

See, I've already asked her out, and she said no. That it wasn't me, it was her. But all I could read from that was that she was scared too. I asked one of here friends what she felt about me today, the reply was that she liked me as a friend. But she's smart enough to figure out who wanted to know, and she didn't want me to know? Or am I being paranoid? Obsessed?

But she is on my mind all the time, every song I hear, my love sick mind, twists into it being about her. Or me and her. Or me being love with her. And when I say every song I mean every song.....I was listening to Macey Grey - I try and I started crying. I listened to Slipknot - Vermillion pt. 2 and nearly cried. I listened to Symphoney of Destruction by Megadeath, and that was about me being in love with her. Or The Reason by Hoobastank..... I just can escape.

But shes so much more then the sum of her parts, and I'm scared that I'll lose her.

 

[Turanil]

See, I've already asked her out, and she said no.

:\ What else to say?

 

[Hand of Evil]

She said no, so do not ask her out any more...ask her to join you, this is stuff like "hey, I am going to the mall, do you want to join me? No, okay maybe some other time...take care." But don't do it too much and don't stalk her.

 

[Ferret]

She said no, so do not ask her out any more...ask her to join you, this is stuff like "hey, I am going to the mall, do you want to join me? No, okay maybe some other time...take care." But don't do it too much and don't stalk her.

Thats what I'm afraid she'll think, I'm not going to ask her out again if that wahats going to happen.

What else to say?

Je pas.

 

[PowerWordDumb]

I'm going to be nice here, and it's unaccustomed, so I hope you appreciate the effort.

You're not in love. At all. Not even a little. Save yourself the pain and find somebody else.

 

[Ferret]

Please explain yourself more.

 

[Warrior Poet]

Remember that the world is full of amazing people to meet, not just one person to meet.

Good luck.

Warrior Poet

 

[loki44]

But shes so much more then the sum of her parts, and I'm scared that I'll lose her.

I'm sorry, but based on what you said it doesn't seem like she's yours to lose. Give it some time and don't do anything drastic. If you try too hard that's a surefire way of failing.

 

[fusangite]

I'm scarred that if I ask her out (again) she will think I'm obsessed with here, in a bad way, and all I've been getting was mixed signals.

Can you give us an example of mixed signals? Otherwise I'm inclined to side with Turanil here.

I'm scared that if I don't ask, I'll lose her.

Fortunately you don't have her so that particular fear can be put to rest.

I'm scared that I'll stop loving here,

Don't be scared of that because, if she rejects you/has rejected you, that's what you will have to do.

I'm scared she doesn't love me.

She doesn't. But if God is really really on your side, there might be a 1% chance that one day in the future she could.

I'm scared I'm becoming unhealthily obsessed with her.

You are.

See, I've already asked her out, and she said no.

That says to me that she is not attracted to you and you should give up.

That it wasn't me, it was her.

Well, I know one reason you're attracted to her. She's polite. I like polite girls too.

But all I could read from that was that she was scared too.

Sounds like nothing more than wishful thinking on your part because:

I asked one of here friends what she felt about me today, the reply was that she liked me as a friend.

That means that this girl has already made it known to other people that she is not attracted to you. Unless you present us with some compelling new evidence, I think we can declare that this girl is not into you.

But she's smart enough to figure out who wanted to know, and she didn't want me to know? Or am I being paranoid? Obsessed?

Yes. And I'm sure that is making you appear even less attractive to this girl than you already do.

But she is on my mind all the time, every song I hear, my love sick mind, twists into it being about her.

I've been there, man. That sucks. I hate that feeling. Fortunately, as you age, these feelings will get less intense when they hit you. But riding them out is really kind of unpleasant. It's like having a fairly disabling mental illness for weeks or months at a time. We, on ENWorld, feel for you and hope you start feeling better soon.

...and I started crying.

1. Don't tell people on D&D message boards things like this.
2. You sound young enough that you can get counselling for free. Sounds like you need a few sessions with a counsellor to give you some strategies for getting ahold of yourself.
EDIT: Just checked your profile. I'm almost positive 16 year olds in the UK can get counselling for free.

I'm scared that I'll lose her.

You don't have her so you can't lose her. You aren't scared that you will lose her. You are scared you won't get her. And you're right to be scared. You almost certainly won't.

 

[Ferret]

When I'm a room with her she seems to turn and look at me mroe often then usual, and whn she said no, she had a big pause, smiled nervously, then said what she said (not me it's you).

When I said 'Lose her' I didn't mean that I had her, I meant that I'd lose a chance of being with her.

Thank you for giving me your views.