If I were in your shoes, I'd go on the date, sister or no sister. How does it go... a bird in the hand beats two in the bush? She wants to spend time with you on that day, don't try to second-guess what she means by it. Take it at face value. Trying to figure out someone's motivations is basicly impossible and all you'll do is throw yourself into turmoil. Just go with the flow.
[OT] Hey there, Dr. Midnight, what's going on with your love life right now?
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Pielorinho
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No, dude, totally take a gamer along! They can aid you on your seduction roll! huh huh huh
(brought to you by the Devis and Butthead school of dating)
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reapersaurus
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Oh, the musical one in the Iconics Adventure would make you eat a mandolin or two for THAT misspelling! LOLPielorinho said:
Vuron beat me to it - the eternal optimist would at least let the THOUGHT enter his mind that shes bringing her sister along for the best possible reason:
that you're such a stud, she is bringing her sister along on that long-held fantasy of the menage thang.
Dr Midnight
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That'd be faboo, except I'm the ONLY guy I've ever known who just isn't interested in the menage. Seriously... just doesn't do anything for me.
Just talked to Alison (who talks on a cell phone whilst working in a kitchen at a local restaurant), I've taken the advice of y'allses and am going. We're on for 6:45 this Thursday with her sister at D&B's in Providence. Since her sister is a graphic designer, I'll at least have something in common with her to talk about. Man, I hope I'm not setting myself up for a stiletto to the gut here...
Just talked to Alison (who talks on a cell phone whilst working in a kitchen at a local restaurant), I've taken the advice of y'allses and am going. We're on for 6:45 this Thursday with her sister at D&B's in Providence. Since her sister is a graphic designer, I'll at least have something in common with her to talk about. Man, I hope I'm not setting myself up for a stiletto to the gut here...
Henry@home
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Dr Midnight said:
Fabulous, doc! For a second, there, reading the responses here. I thought you were going to shirk the test!
I'll give one piece of advice here, and then I'll do something spectacular - I'll quit giving comments from the peanut gallery altogether!
BE YOURSELF, just as you were on the first date. Some people think being yourself means scratching your armpits in company, but I'm not talking THAT much yourself.
Seriously, unless given a proven reason otherwise, take her moves at face value. Like someone else here said, the true test of a worthwhile person to spend time with, whether for romantic reasons or no, is that you can hang out with them. That they don't have to be "on" all the time. Plus, whether the date goes well or not, you are at Dave & Busters! THat place is FUN! 
Finally, think about this: you two met because of a personals ad. DO you know how many people don't like personals ads, because of the number of "freaks" who post to them (present company excluded)? She might want assurance that you are as "good" and "healthy" as she thinks you are!
After some of the realitons you have been through, you could be as much of a "breath of fresh air" as she is for you!I don't know if you think she could mean something long term, but don't think about it (which it looks like you are not, which is good) - every relationship is taken day by day. One day you are hanging with her sister, and the next day - who knows?
One last word: My wife, when we were dating, took her 9-year-sister with us on an "outing" - that was MY test. It was to see how well I could act around her. 11 years later, I love her to death and kinda think of her like a daughter myself.
Anyway, good luck, and don't be Don Juan - be Doc. You're smoother, anyway!
P.S. - I know what you mean. Who in the he** ever postulated that all hetero men are into threesome's anyway?
Bass Puppet
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Man O' Man.....
Congradulations You passed!
DR MIDNIGHT, like some of the other EN members, I have to agree that you should go on this date.
MY SAD STORY:
I have been living with my girlfriend for 4 1/2 years...together for 5. We are both level headed, independant, and smart. She was away at Forest Ranger Acedemy. I proposed to her in December on our 5 year anniversary. I was turned down and totally blown away with this news. She had alot of feelings that she kept inside about what she wanted and what she wanted in a relationship. We are very different people when it comes to interest and experience but we were on top of our game. It wasn't over yet, she tryed to convince me it was her being up there and we would work hard to get back what was lost. It never happened. She told me at the begining of this month that it is over and she needs to move on. Needless to say it was very hard, very long, and very painful.
TODAY:
I haven't went out on a "Date" yet, but I have met ALOT of different women. I have about 4 numbers that I could call and go out, but I am having to much fun with my friends. I am moving in with my record label partner in three weeks and we are going to have a studio in our Condo. I work in an Fine Art Gallery in Downtown and meet all kinds of people all the time.
Bottom line: Luck rewards the Prepared.
"NEVER GIVE UP!!! NEVER SURENDER!!"
A couple of free-bee's
1. Never call a girl on a weekend. You don't want her to think that you are a loser and you don't have plans.
2. Never let a girl call you on a weekend. Again, you don't want her to think that you are a loser and don't have plans.
3. Be your best when you go out on a date. Reasons: It is like a job inverview, don't lie, don't exagerate, just be the best YOU can be while your together AND don't try so hard.
4. Always bring a lighter and a pack of cigerettes (Marlboro Lights) WHENEVER you go out even if you don't smoke. The easiest way to start off a conversation is by offering a women a light or a cigerette...usually if she doesn't have any, she will be back to you looking for another, if you play it cool, your in.
5. NEVER say a one liner unless you are into the conversation and it is said for comedic purposess.
Hope they work, good luck, and good hunting.
Congradulations You passed!
DR MIDNIGHT, like some of the other EN members, I have to agree that you should go on this date.
MY SAD STORY:
I have been living with my girlfriend for 4 1/2 years...together for 5. We are both level headed, independant, and smart. She was away at Forest Ranger Acedemy. I proposed to her in December on our 5 year anniversary. I was turned down and totally blown away with this news. She had alot of feelings that she kept inside about what she wanted and what she wanted in a relationship. We are very different people when it comes to interest and experience but we were on top of our game. It wasn't over yet, she tryed to convince me it was her being up there and we would work hard to get back what was lost. It never happened. She told me at the begining of this month that it is over and she needs to move on. Needless to say it was very hard, very long, and very painful.
TODAY:
I haven't went out on a "Date" yet, but I have met ALOT of different women. I have about 4 numbers that I could call and go out, but I am having to much fun with my friends. I am moving in with my record label partner in three weeks and we are going to have a studio in our Condo. I work in an Fine Art Gallery in Downtown and meet all kinds of people all the time.
Bottom line: Luck rewards the Prepared.
"NEVER GIVE UP!!! NEVER SURENDER!!"
A couple of free-bee's
1. Never call a girl on a weekend. You don't want her to think that you are a loser and you don't have plans.
2. Never let a girl call you on a weekend. Again, you don't want her to think that you are a loser and don't have plans.
3. Be your best when you go out on a date. Reasons: It is like a job inverview, don't lie, don't exagerate, just be the best YOU can be while your together AND don't try so hard.
4. Always bring a lighter and a pack of cigerettes (Marlboro Lights) WHENEVER you go out even if you don't smoke. The easiest way to start off a conversation is by offering a women a light or a cigerette...usually if she doesn't have any, she will be back to you looking for another, if you play it cool, your in.
5. NEVER say a one liner unless you are into the conversation and it is said for comedic purposess.
Hope they work, good luck, and good hunting.
Dr Midnight
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Another update-
Just talked to her, and she said her sister asked for me to bring a friend. I don't really have anyone I'd bring, so Alison's going to bring one of HER friends... who's never met her sister. So, the speculation problem is significantly reduced, because the spec-u-la-tor will be on a blind date herself. Moo-hah! Triumph for geeks.
This'll make things a lot more comfortable for me. Ahhh...
Just talked to her, and she said her sister asked for me to bring a friend. I don't really have anyone I'd bring, so Alison's going to bring one of HER friends... who's never met her sister. So, the speculation problem is significantly reduced, because the spec-u-la-tor will be on a blind date herself. Moo-hah! Triumph for geeks.
This'll make things a lot more comfortable for me. Ahhh...
Wise of you not to offer anyone up to blind-date her sister... cause you'll be judged not only on your own behaviour, but on the actions of your friend.
And Bass Puppet... I'm really sorry to hear that. Any advice for us in a relationship on how to avoid what happened to you? It sounds totally heart-breaking and I'm really sorry it happened to you
. I've been living with my girlfriend now for nearly a year and a half, and I'm extremely happy... so happy, I keep waiting for the ball to drop. Nothing in my life has ever gone so well for so long, and I keep expecting it to drop. So what happened to you is the nightmare I sometimes fear myself... but I know sometimes you just have to give it the best you can and what happens, happens.
-Arravis
And Bass Puppet... I'm really sorry to hear that. Any advice for us in a relationship on how to avoid what happened to you? It sounds totally heart-breaking and I'm really sorry it happened to you
. I've been living with my girlfriend now for nearly a year and a half, and I'm extremely happy... so happy, I keep waiting for the ball to drop. Nothing in my life has ever gone so well for so long, and I keep expecting it to drop. So what happened to you is the nightmare I sometimes fear myself... but I know sometimes you just have to give it the best you can and what happens, happens.-Arravis
heh, sounds like Lady Luck is on your side this time. It sounds like you have the same problem I do--you've been burned enough times that you over-analyze everything. As someone earlier said, you just have to take things at face value until they give you a reason to do otherwise.
Hope all goes well!
Hope all goes well!
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