[OT] Hey there, Dr. Midnight, what's going on with your love life right now?

[Dr Midnight]

Damn, Derek, is that true?? Last I'd heard, you were on hard times but nothing as bad as that. If so, my heart goes out to you, man. I know that doesn't help at all, but if you could tell me what I could do to cheer you up, I'll do it.

Ghettognome is right... it probably sounds like I'm coming up with excuses to not go. It's not really the case, but I can't help how it looks. I'm going to be a wreck tomorrow. Pink eyes, chafed red nose, etc... I called her and told her that I MOST LIKELY will not be in any kind of shape to meet at D&B's, but I will do my best. I actually am going to try to show up, if only for a little while. I don't want to go, however, if I'm looking like microwaved toad.

Pardon my slurred writing. I've taken some Theraflu (lovely, lovely stuff, that), and am feeling the drowsiness (dark elf?) take hold of my already styrofoam-like mental faculties. Wheeee...

 

[madriel]

Sorry to hear you're not feeling well, Doc.

My advice is to go to the restaurant anyway. Show up, order a drink and talk to the others while you drink. When you're done, make your apologies and ask Alison for a raincheck when you're healthy because of course you don't want to pass it on.

She'll see that you're truly sick but still eager to go out with her and you'll probably get some sympathy points too.

As for coming out of the gaming closet with her, I'd hold off on that until the relationship is serious enough for her to be asking where you go twice a week. Until then, just tell her you're getting together with friends and perhaps have her meet your gaming buddies first in a social situation.

 

[CRGreathouse]

Good advice

have her meet your gaming buddies first in a social situation.

 

[Horacio]

Sorry to hear you're not feeling well, Doc.

My advice is to go to the restaurant anyway. Show up, order a drink and talk to the others while you drink. When you're done, make your apologies and ask Alison for a raincheck when you're healthy because of course you don't want to pass it on.

She'll see that you're truly sick but still eager to go out with her and you'll probably get some sympathy points too.

That's my advise too. She will see you really want to be with her, that you aren't searching cheap excuses, and she will like knowing that, even being ill, you've done an effort for her.

 

[reapersaurus]

no way, Doc.
Don't go, if you feel as bad as i am feeling...

If she gets sick from your germs, that's not a good impression that's left of you.

phrase it like you're looking out for her - which it is.

just be honest.
no games.

 

[Darklone]

Get well soon, Doc!

Come on Doc, you'll be ok and will have a wonderful evening. About the gaming problem: Should not be a problem at all. Had a girlfriend that I know for 6 years now. 6 months ago she told me for the first time she would be interested in playing after reading the whole Lotr books in one week. The day after she swallowed the PHB whole. Why? She always thought me and the other geeks would not like to have her in the group since it is "male gaming". It never was, we had girls there since years...

Shortly speaking: Girls often don't play cause they think we don't want them along.

Thumbs up for the evening and best wishes for your health from good old Germany!

 

[Bass Puppet]

And Bass Puppet... I'm really sorry to hear that. Any advice for us in a relationship on how to avoid what happened to you? It sounds totally heart-breaking and I'm really sorry it happened to you . I've been living with my girlfriend now for nearly a year and a half, and I'm extremely happy... so happy, I keep waiting for the ball to drop. Nothing in my life has ever gone so well for so long, and I keep expecting it to drop. So what happened to you is the nightmare I sometimes fear myself... but I know sometimes you just have to give it the best you can and what happens, happens.

-Arravis

Arravis,

Thank you for you kind words, I hope the best for you and your girlfriend. To answer your question, the only way to prepare yourself for such an possible event is to invest in you. You must make you happy first and for most. Do what you know you SHOULD do. If you have it going on and you know it, it shows. I was devistated and heart broken, but not ruined. I never thought that it was going to happen, but I new that just because I thought I found the "One", doesn't mean the game is over. The game is over when your worm food. Oddly, I feel like I am being prepared for something else or someone else.

The world is YOUR oyster, so get out your lemon and fork and dig in.

BE YOURSELF!

 

[Wulf Ratbane]

NYQUIL, NYQUIL, and more NYQUIL.

At the first sniffle, the first sign that it is wearing off, take another dose.

Whatever you do, stay away from the kleenex. Just keep yourself hopped up on Nyquil.

But you need to make this date, otherwise you WILL look like you are being flaky and looking for excuses.


Wulf

 

[maddman75]

Anyone seen the movie, "The Tao of Steve"?

In the movie, there are rules for getting the girl. Only three rules. Let's see if I get them right. (Okay, I only remember two of them. Anyone remember the third?)

1) If she advances, retreat. It'll throw her off her paces, and she'll be intrigued.

2) Do something exceptional. It doesn't matter what, as long as you can impress.

The three rules of Being Steve are

- Be desireless (as Doc did when he stopped worrying about the date)
- Be Excellent (let her see you be good at something)
- Be gone - she needs to know that your life doesn't revolve around her.

If I were in this position, I'd either find a buddy for her sister, or failing that - not go. Not a question of chickening out, its just that going on a date with her sister in tow isn't going to work out good for you no matter which way you cut it IMO.

Let her have the day to spend with her sister, arrange another date later.

 

[maddman75]

D'oh! Made this last post about halfway in.

If she has a guy for the sister, then all is well. No worries.

I don't know about hopping up on Nyquil, you know how you feel, use your best judgement.

Everyone's throwing tons of advice at you, here's mine. Don't give a damn what she thinks of you. On the RPG stuff - don't bring it up, but don't deny it either. Don't make a big deal out of it, because believe me its not. Even if she's not into it or thinks its dumb, how many women think their bf's playing golf, or working on cars, or playing poker is interesting. Some, but there are plenty that stay with their men anyway.

Luck Doc.