It's almost ... almost ... like there's a difference in how male and female anger are viewed as appropriate and/or forgivable.
I agree there is a big difference. Lets take a look and compare how the anger of our male hulk and female hulk have been treated in the MCU.
Male Hulk
Was hunted by the US government, using lethal force.
Was forced into exile for years living outside the bounds of society.
Was used as an example for the Sokovia Accords (even though that incident was actually 100% not his fault).
Female Hulk
Got minor jail time and lost her job
Immediately got back her reputation and job back by the end of the episode.
Also how much personal responsibility did our various Hulk's feel for their actions?
Male Hulk
- Felt like such a monster and threat to society that he tried to kill himself.
- After Sokovia, felt like such a monster and threat to society again (even though it wasn't his fault) that he exiled himself into space (which depending on how well he could have navigated that ship, could be construed as another suicide attempt).
- Commonly thought of himself as a monster until finally merging with the Hulk.
- Tried to instill that responsibility and importance of control into Jen.
Female Hulk
- Felt no remorse for the property damage she caused.
- Blamed all of her problems on Intelligencia.
Now you could argue that the Hulk did a lot more damage in his time (which is fair). You could also argue that the Hulk should have been in prison...though maybe he got special release for helping to save New York (or maybe was placed in "special custody" by SHIELD), but its fair to say none of that was explained. But at the end of the day, our Male Hulk got plenty of punishment for his "anger", society ripped into him plenty. Whereas our Female Hulk got a slap on the wrist. If the goal was to show that women get punished by society for showing their anger by comparing her treatment to her male counterpart....well then they failed miserably.
The better approach would have been to not have Jen do property damage, not burst through a brick wall. Have the gala occur, have the video air. Jen "loses it" and just roars and screams. People get scared, suddenly there are guns in her face, she gets put in jail, loses her job because of the publicity. NOW you have a case, this poor woman who just got a bit overwhelmed and screamed in public....no crimes committed, yet everyone freaks out. NOW you are pushing the message in a reasonable way, that this woman is being unfairly treated for "showing a little anger". Instead of what we got, which was a person committing a crime in public...getting arrested.