'Splain somethin' to me....
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Lady_Acoma
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*blinks* Man I must be awesome! 
DungeonmasterCal
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Rel said:Yeah, but those crazy chicks are great in the sack!
Good times...good times...
I have a couple of those in my past. One is currently single... hmmmmm.....
![:]](http://www.enworld.org/forum/images/smilies/devious.png "Devious :]")
DungeonmasterCal
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sniffles said:Cal, I think it's great that you're good with being "on your own". I've never understood that attitude of thinking one must be in a relationship or one is incomplete, either. It generally seems to me that people who think that way are very unhappy people who need to learn to be happy with themselves before they can be happy with someone else. E-harmony notwithstanding, I think the time you're most likely to find someone compatible is when you're not looking. I also don't believe there's a "soul mate" for everyone; some people don't have one, some people have several. Just enjoy your life.
Be nice to yourself. Even an amicable divorce is traumatic. And don't let those relationship-mongers get to you.
I agree totally about the soulmate thing. Every time someone told me we were "soulmates", the warning klaxons began. I've yet to meet a soulmate. And don't worry about the mongers...they can't get to me in my goldfish-guarded fortress of solitude!
DungeonmasterCal
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reveal said:Ain't nothin' better than rebound sex.
While I can only agree with this universal truth, any rebound sex will NOT be taking place with the aforementioned crazy woman. Because I've already been to that carnival once, and it ain't worth a second ride. She's nuttier than a cashew plantation.
DaveStebbins
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Wow, talk about living parallel lives. I'm a year older than you and ended my 15-year marriage over two years ago for similar reasons. While I *am* looking for a life companion, I really enjoy living on my own and am in no hurry to find someone.DungeonmasterCal said:
The end of a marriage sends ripples throughout the people associated with the former couple, and people cope in various ways. Friends trying to hook you up may simply be encouraging you to be out there and meeting people, or they may be signalling their support of your decision and their belief that you are indeed ready for a new relationship. Or they may be acting on their own fears associated with being alone (as others have mentioned). The important thing is to stay active and keep your activities diverse. Even if you have no interest in aloving life-long relationship, human interaction is important to psychological and all-around health, so don't cloister yourself.
Good luck, bro. I hope you enjoy every coming year more than the last, as I have done since my decision to split with my ex.
-Dave
Queen_Dopplepopolis
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*shrugs* Some people a weird, DMC.
I think that spending some time alone is the healthiest option. If people question it, kill them and take their stuff.
I think that spending some time alone is the healthiest option. If people question it, kill them and take their stuff.
Quickbeam
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People naturally assume that what makes them happy (or sad, or angry, or excited, etc.) must apply to those around them as well. Your family and friends probably wouldn't want to be alone and are trying to ease you through a tough time the same way they'd want your support. It's just very hard for some folks to understand/appreciate being OK with being alone.
I'd also wager that it's not so much that you wish to be alone, as it is you'd like the ability to be alone when that suits your mood. Being attached or involved in a serious romantic relationship makes that darn near impossible sometimes.
I'd also wager that it's not so much that you wish to be alone, as it is you'd like the ability to be alone when that suits your mood. Being attached or involved in a serious romantic relationship makes that darn near impossible sometimes.
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