IME, accusations of "not reading" more often than not are just easy ways of bypassing an argument. IOW, Not Reading often means "Not Agreeing with Everything I Say, so, obviously you haven't understood what I said because if you actually read and understood what I said, you would obviously agree with everything I said."
In other words, it's not that someone didn't read what you wrote. It's that either what you wrote doesn't necessarily mean what you think it means, or, more often than not, the other person just doesn't agree with you.
Because, in every single case of someone "not reading" what someone wrote, it's never, EVER a case of someone agreeing with the point being made. "Oh, you agree with me? Oh, well, you obviously didn't read what I wrote" has never, ever been said.
I find that once a conversation has devolved into one side or both accusing the other of not reading, it's time to click that "unwatch" button, because, frankly, that conversation is over.
