Ralts Bloodthorne
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Look, want some advice about learning about social interaction?
Maybe, maybe not, but you'll get it anyway.
WATCH! That's it. That's how children learn. Watch people socially interact with one another, rent movies (you know the kind, often referred to as "chick flicks") and carefully watch them. Learn when it is appropriate to smile, when it is appropriate to laugh (When she is describing how her father's parachute didn't open and he slammed into the top of the car and was killed is NOT an appropriate time to bust up laughing, trust me) and what facial expressions are commonly used. Practice those expressions in a mirror.
Record your own voice saying certian things and replay it, adjusting your tone, cadence and wording until it sounds appropriate.
It can be done, you just have to put forth a lot of effort, and most people would rather use whatever it is that keeps them from properly interacting with the walking meatsacks as an excuse rather than work on seemlessly fitting into the social setting.
Despite what some people believe, being able to interact on a social level can be a lot of work. If you are serious, I suggest the following:
Language classes. It'lll help you with speaking.
Manners lessons. It'll help you with proper social interactions.
Health classes. It'll show you how other people react as far as emotions to what stimuli.
Group therapy. Watch other people for thier reactions, but do NOT use them to base your own. Instead, watch the counsellour.
Therapy. If you get to the point you can successful fool the counsellor into thinking you're good, you've got that down.
Bood/Poetry Clubs. Find out the proper emotional response and the proper social displays of those responses.
That'll do for a start.
Maybe, maybe not, but you'll get it anyway.
WATCH! That's it. That's how children learn. Watch people socially interact with one another, rent movies (you know the kind, often referred to as "chick flicks") and carefully watch them. Learn when it is appropriate to smile, when it is appropriate to laugh (When she is describing how her father's parachute didn't open and he slammed into the top of the car and was killed is NOT an appropriate time to bust up laughing, trust me) and what facial expressions are commonly used. Practice those expressions in a mirror.
Record your own voice saying certian things and replay it, adjusting your tone, cadence and wording until it sounds appropriate.
It can be done, you just have to put forth a lot of effort, and most people would rather use whatever it is that keeps them from properly interacting with the walking meatsacks as an excuse rather than work on seemlessly fitting into the social setting.
Despite what some people believe, being able to interact on a social level can be a lot of work. If you are serious, I suggest the following:
Language classes. It'lll help you with speaking.
Manners lessons. It'll help you with proper social interactions.
Health classes. It'll show you how other people react as far as emotions to what stimuli.
Group therapy. Watch other people for thier reactions, but do NOT use them to base your own. Instead, watch the counsellour.
Therapy. If you get to the point you can successful fool the counsellor into thinking you're good, you've got that down.
Bood/Poetry Clubs. Find out the proper emotional response and the proper social displays of those responses.
That'll do for a start.
In your case, I'd give her another chance. Wait until after the long weekend....maybe Tue-Wed, and give her a call again. Don't call her on a Friday, because then it simply looks like you've got nothing to do.
