Ahhh yes a strawmen. We aren't arguing that you are getting way to upset that maybe just maybe your character isn't a rational actor so that your argument about wanting to have everything be thought out on your end is kind of dumb.
PS:
I also forgot about this but RAW its not even a problem. It does come up from time to time but I forgot you can ignore or just plain not get yourself involved with allies riders.
This segment of the conversation started when Bluenose respnded to me and said (paraphrasing) "and your character is trampled by a Dire Boar, happy now?"
It went down the rabbit hole of combat is too intense/frightening/fast for rational decision-making only reactions.
My characters are rational actors -- that dos not mean they are unaffected by emotion or never act contrary to what an outside would consider their best interest, but rather their actions typically have explicable motivation.
The character may not have evrything thought out -- I may not have everything thought out -- but the powers, as written, allow another player to override those decisions I have made, for better or worse in a way that does not provide any external agency overriding the free will of the character affected. In short, the player usurps the control I have over the character to do an action I don't want the character to perform and then I have to internalise the result of that action with the character's motivations and feelings.
Suggestions to simply change/ignore the rules are fine and pretty much what I've done on a macro scale -- I play other games.