This is getting a bit far afield, but I think ULTIMATELY what you have identified here is what I have termed "The Logic of Power" in discussions in more serious venues. It is a corollary, an effect of, the system of thought which I have also termed 'Violentism', which sees the world through the lens of conflict and oppositional thinking, rather than through the lens of mutualistic Cooperationist thinking. It is absolutely possible for society to shift from the former, which is quite prevalent in many parts of modern global society, to the later. If each side becomes aware of the advantages of cooperation on a mutualistic level, then they can change the social/cultural milieu to suite. If all you do is shut up and accept defeat, then you've JOINED the Violentist logic of power side, just as the victim. If you HAVE some power, then wouldn't it be foolish NOT to exercise it in the creation of mutual benefit? If one fails to do so, are not others justified in seeing that as an indication that your value system has no concern for them at all, and that you are short-sighted/foolish? I don't see how that is an escapable conclusion... Frankly most people are somewhat lazy, and fear disruptive change, and thus they feel motivated to dismiss any claim that would logically propel them to act.